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"I think your problem is much deeper than that. I really doubt you are abused on a daily basis for having curly hair and dark skin as you say. Where do you live - in a KKK camp?"
No one is trying to sweep this issue under the rug but I believe that the truths of the discussion goes over the head of far too many people in this thread. The roots of the issue are not easy to be wrapped up, packaged or consumed for easy digestion. It has many layers and ones opinions are very often colored by where one stands on the color spectrum.
Why don't you explain it then..... Although the whole issue here will never make sense to me on a personal level, I think you're underestimating what the forum capable of digesting. And since the discussion has gone for well over 100 posts...give it go.
I am from the south and I have seen many beautiful black women. They don't have to be mixed or even light skinned. What's sad is that the women that are considered beautiful in Hollywood or in the magazines are not the "average" woman. I mean yes they are real people and they are beautiful in their own way but that is just the industry standard. I see many people on this forum say that overweight or fat woman can't be beautiful either. Okay, so you many not be attracted to them but that doesn't mean that they aren't beautiful to some people.
People put too much emphasis on physical beauty and not enough on the beauty that comes from within. If you have an ugly heart, no amount of makeup or diet or plastic surgery is going to make you beautiful.
So, yes you can be beautiful. Love yourself and don't care what other people think. I have to remind myself of that everyday because believe me there are some really mean people out there.
People are always putting me down because of my skin tone. In the black community they remind me how dark I am, and whites seem to marginalize me. Apparently to whites I look like every other black girl because they seem to always confuse me with some other black girl that has bares little resemblance to me. Maybe if I had light eyes and skin they'd be able to know who I am
Why don't you explain it then..... Although the whole issue here will never make sense to me on a personal level, I think you're underestimating what the forum capable of digesting. And since the discussion has gone for well over 100 posts...give it go.
That was quite the condescending post, wasn't it?
Colorism does exist, but nyanna's reaction to it is not normal.
What am I supposed to do if someone decides that I am not good enough based on my skin color? Can I change their mind? The only reaction that I can control is my own.
People are always putting me down because of my skin tone. In the black community they remind me how dark I am, and whites seem to marginalize me. Apparently to whites I look like every other black girl because they seem to always confuse me with some other black girl that has bares little resemblance to me. Maybe if I had light eyes and skin they'd be able to know who I am
Stop trolling nyanna. It makes you seem even more unattractive than you already believe yourself to be. The thought if having to listen to this nonsense in real life is maddening.
This post illustrates that you are seeking attention more than anything else. Your pattern has been duly noted. As soon as the thread conversation takes a bit of a turn (onto more interesting nuances) you always chime in with another "woe is me" soliloquy about dark skin.
Stop trolling nyanna. It makes you seem even more unattractive than you already believe yourself to be. The thought if having to listen to this nonsense in real life is maddening.
This post illustrates that you are seeking attention more than anything else. Your pattern has been duly noted. As soon as the thread conversation takes a bit of a turn (onto more interesting nuances) you always chime in with another "woe is me" soliloquy about dark skin.
....after she had been gone for 6 pages..... White people don't love her, black people don't love her. What is a person to do? Could it have anything to do with she hates the world?
You give what you get. Greet someone with a smile, and you shall receive one in return. Furrow your eyebrows and put a snarl on your lip and you can expect to get that back.
I guess I could start complaining on the relationships forum because what I normally post there is positive. Many people don't appreciate my posts because it is in a positive, happy, drama-free fashion and not what they want.
Woe is me. Everyone hates me because I have a man that loves me and I love him back. Boo hoo hoo.
I would rather think that I am opening other people up to share their positive experiences as well when I post happiness there, or wherever.
Stop trolling nyanna. It makes you seem even more unattractive than you already believe yourself to be. The thought if having to listen to this nonsense in real life is maddening.
This post illustrates that you are seeking attention more than anything else. Your pattern has been duly noted. As soon as the thread conversation takes a bit of a turn (onto more interesting nuances) you always chime in with another "woe is me" soliloquy about dark skin.
You are just trying to sweep this issue under the rug. I am not making this up or trying to be an attentionwhore. There have been white students who I interacted with on a daily basis only for them to not remember who I was the following semester. Yet I still remember them. I guess since I am darkskin with dark eyes, I am not even important enough to acknowledge.
So what? In Television, you rarely see a "sexy" Asian man, "sexy" Indian man, or "sexy" Short man (Tom Cruise is not "short", he's just shy of average) taking the lead and being the one who women objectify. Rarely do you see an out of shape guy being objectified, at most paired up in a sitcom...........
Funny, I think most of the popular Indian men on TV/the movies (Timmy from Rules of Engagement, Raj from Big Bang Theory, Kal Penn) who are EXTREMELY sexy.
As for other Asian men (because Indians are, in fact, considered Asian) John Cho, Daniel Dae Kim and Jet Li come to mind--not to mention the VERY droolworthy Grant Imahara from Mythbusters.
Sorry... I get your point, but now you have me thinking of sexy Asian men
my darkskin makes me that bland and unrecognizable. the racism and colorism i go through is very painful
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Yet I still remember them. I guess since I am darkskin with dark eyes, I am not even important enough to acknowledge.
