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Agree with what? That she's trying to come to terms with her husband's new face after his battle injuries? You don't think that would be traumatic? What if your significant other of 25 years suddenly had a different face? This is life being very life-like and one woman trying to deal with it.
I have a strong BS detector, and what she writes is full of BS. She's obviously long been obsessed with her husband's appearance. All the tiny details she points out. No way in hell she'd have gotten with him if he weren't attractive, and the article does not dispel the suspicion that she'd have left him over major, lasting disfigurement. She seems to be writing to puff herself up - "I snagged a hot man and stuck with him," along with getting publicity for her story. I doubt she's learned anything. Readers should wake up and realize that women are hardly better than men when it comes to overvaluing looks.
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I have a strong BS detector, and what she writes is full of BS. She's obviously long been obsessed with her husband's appearance. All the tiny details she points out. No way in hell she'd have gotten with him if he weren't attractive, and the article does not dispel the suspicion that she'd have left him over major, lasting disfigurement. She seems to be writing to puff herself up - "I snagged a hot man and stuck with him," along with getting publicity for her story. I doubt she's learned anything. Readers should wake up and realize that women are hardly better than men when it comes to overvaluing looks.
Mod cut. You took someone's earnest effort to describe something that, thankfully, most of us will never experience, and you crapped all over it with your negativity.
I'm an editor, and here's what happens when you are asked to write an article: You are asked to give detail. Tons of detail. Not stupid, worthless generalities like, "Men don't trust women's claims about looks." But memorable, evocative details like "16 centimeters of skull removed." And personal feelings, like the fact that she does not love his scars. All that does is make her relatable.
Your post only reveals is that you have not experienced love like this. And that's ok. But for you to denigrate HER experience because of your own problems is just ... sad.
Like I said, look within.
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Some of that might be true, but she talks too much about how handsome he is or was and oozes pride about that. Also, I didn't say all women are like her - I've seen stories on TV of "stand by my maimed man" where no superficiality showed. But the truth is, on average, women are more subtle about their superficiality than men are and like to act as though their gender as a whole is non-superficial (re the lack of comments calling the author out on her attitude). Consider this thread an expose. Giving guys knowledge so they can protect themselves. By the way, I don't want to be "loved" for my face.
Some of that might be true, but she talks too much about how handsome he is or was and oozes pride about that. Also, I didn't say all women are like her - I've seen stories on TV of "stand by my maimed man" where no superficiality showed. But the truth is, on average, women are more subtle about their superficiality than men are and like to act as though their gender as a whole is non-superficial (re the lack of comments calling the author out on her attitude). Consider this thread an expose. Giving guys knowledge so they can protect themselves. By the way, I don't want to be "loved" for my face.
It's an expose on nothing but the fact that you missed the whole point. "The lack of comments calling her out ..." should be a clue to you that you're wrong.
She of course talks about how handsome he is because to ignore it would be disingenuous. She even admits that she DID take pride in his appearance, and that it was shallow.
The part you missed is about how she now knows that love is more than that.
"Women" as a whole don't do anything. We all are different.
"I think about how different my own face must look to Bob. It’s been changing imperceptibly since we met, the aging process visible in the time-lapse photos of us from our wedding 26 years ago to now. Love ages and mellows us. It transports us through life together, for better or worse."
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"I think about how different my own face must look to Bob. It’s been changing imperceptibly since we met, the aging process visible in the time-lapse photos of us from our wedding 26 years ago to now. Love ages and mellows us. It transports us through life together, for better or worse."
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+1. I read what many other posters have read; the woman loves her husband for who he is, not how he looks. After all, she is still married to him years after a horrible disfiguring facial injury. That alone contradicts OP's thesis; that the author (and women in general) are shallow, superficial, and only concerned about their husbands' looks.
It's an expose on nothing but the fact that you missed the whole point. "The lack of comments calling her out ..." should be a clue to you that you're wrong.
She of course talks about how handsome he is because to ignore it would be disingenuous. She even admits that she DID take pride in his appearance, and that it was shallow.
The part you missed is about how she now knows that love is more than that.
"Women" as a whole don't do anything. We all are different.
THAT ^^^. Sorry I can't rep this comment, but I would if I could.
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