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I would say, "Yeah, don't we all?" Or some such. Virtually all Americans could stand to drop a few pounds. If you are quite fit, then, you could say, "it's really hard to stay in shape" or something similar.
No need to lie. And there is no need to be brutal. How someone lives is not of your concern.
If a good friend is floundering, or actively asks for input, then is the time to tactfully mentioning getting fit or watching the carb intake.
People who fish for reassurance don't really profit from reassurances. They are insecure inwardly, and no amount of reassurance will make up for that feeling.
Ya don't we all has my vote as the best way to answer this question. However it you are super thin ... this answer may make you seen nuts. I personally hate when people ask questions like this to put you on the spot. It should be pretty obvious.
Seriously it's not lying if you say nothing. Silence can be a golden opportunity to be a civil being.
There was a lady at our company event who was an attention getter. She had a lovely physique, yet constantly said... Gosh I'm soooooooooooo fat! I seriously had to walk away from her. Her ego was crowding the room....
This lady WAS fishing and you didn't take the bait. I would've told this attention ho "Don't we all!" or "I've heard the Paleo Diet works wonders". That way she can interpret it anyway she wants and might start to worry later (good) that you agree with her.
To the OP, often no reply is needed in a customer/employee type setting. Just ignore the weight comment as if you didn't hear it and go back to the BUSINESS at hand.
Heavy Lady checking out of store with a case of SlimFast: "I'm soooooo fat, I really need to lose weight".
Store Cashier: "Will that be debit or credit?"
Last edited by TheShadow; 08-20-2016 at 09:03 AM..
So I have a thread about me lying to people about their age, now I thought I would have one about weight.
I work with the public and I do get the occasional remark by customers that they put on weight and need to lose. Even though I think they probably should I politely lie and say they are fine or divert the attention and say I need to lose some weight as well.
Since most posters thought being a liar telling someone they look younger than they look is worse, what are you thoughts about weight? Is it more 'okay' to lie to someone that they don't need to lose weight or disagree that they are not overweight when it's clearly the case they should or are? Are you honest when someone asks you if they are fat/overweight?
My pet peeves are people fishing for youth compliments or telling them they are in fine shape and don't need to lose weight. Either way I just lie to not make anyone feel bad. But if it's someone close to me then I don't mind mentioning to the person losing a few pounds would be better for your health.
I don't answer yeay or nay if someone comments about needing to lose weight. That way, I'm not responding either to a question fishing for a compliment, or making a response that could be misconstrued as judgemental. I figure if they need to lose weight it is up to them to figure out and they don't need my input.
If they are actually fat, I just say "It's not easy" and let it go. If they are in good shape with just a few pounds to lose (if any), I'll tell them they look fine the way they are, and let it go.
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