How long after moving should a place feel like "Home"? (relocation, expensive)
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I think it depends. Been in Minnesota 15 years and still waiting for it to happen.
My answer is kind of like this. Since graduating from college and supporting myself, I've lived 12 places. Most were never "home". They were places near where I worked. I've owned a vacation home at a ski resort for 25 years. I've lived there full time a couple of times and telecommuted from it in the winter for a number of years but it was always "vacation home". I bought a house in my coastal village home town 7 years ago I've been using as my summer house and will retire there eventually. That's home.
for me it was less about the house and more about where we decided to make our home. Not sure why but I grew to hate my old place and I could never put my finger on why until we moved into our new house thousands of miles away from the old house.
I have an unmistakable easy feeling when I step out of my house in the evenings and realized that I never liked to be outside of my old house after dark.
The combination of job, home, life as a whole just made this new place feel more homey than the last place from day one.
For me it's places where I had the best times with friends, family, good jobs and ease of getting around. Denver, Las Vegas and Chicago will always be my homes. I lived in Dallas for a year and it never felt like home. Felt like someplace else. Also, lived in several cities in Florida, for two years at a time, but would never call it home. Yuck.
Last edited by WildSpark; 05-22-2017 at 09:21 PM..
Usually sometime within 2-3 years. I usually like just the newness for about a year before comfort, and questioning sets in. I haven't made it that long in a few places....
One place I didn't think I loved, then 2 years in I had to be gone 4 days for work (back to the old place I had lived - way on the other coast).
When I got on the plane for the return flight I felt myself thinking "home", and when I pulled in through my gate I breathed a sigh of relief. That was cool, and unexpected.
I am deliberately taking my stuff with me (although downsizing) so I will have the same surroundings in my new home, 2200 miles from my old house. I love my to-be-former house. The town is very pretty but after 26 years, I still don't feel the town is home. I've tried a few connections and they just feel stale and I don't keep trying.
My current house/town has been perfect for my mood disorder/work schedule (third shift/depression) and for starting my hobby of adopting multiple senior dogs.
I am already reaching out to make connections in my to-be-new home and will be meeting with people during my last vacation there in June.
When I first visit the new town, it looks shockingly less prosperous and I wonder if I am making a huge mistake. Then after a few days, it looks normal for itself. I have visited there many times over the last 30 years and something about the area (and the state) have always felt like home to me. I have a lot of hope for my retirement there.
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