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Lots of people talk about wanting to move away from places they don't like, but what if that's not really the dilemma? If someone had these two choices, what would you (based on your life experience) recommend (for person in twenties - early thirties)?
Choice 1 - Continue to live near family and friends and work at job with good coworkers. Life isn't great but it's not bad either.
Choice 2 - Move to place you've dreamed about living in for about five years (for various reasons related to that area that aren't relevant), can get decent job and afford good quality of life.. Will be away from family, no friends already there (but can make friends pretty quickly based upon past experience.)
Basically the choice is between remaining in a good (but not great) situation but possibly regretting not moving OR moving but possibly regretting the move with no option of being able to go back to current good situation.
I would make the move. You don't have to be there permanently, and at some point you'll almost certainly have the opportunity to move back if it doesn't work out.
I moved away from my home city for graduate school, and due to one reason or the other have lived in five cities in four states on both coasts since then. Having the opportunity to live other places has helped me to realize what it is I like most about a place, given me opportunities to explore the country (because living somewhere is a very different thing than just visiting), meet new people, have fun, and I think has made me a better person (sorry for the cliche!). We are now hoping to buy a place in my home city, but I now feel comfortable putting down more permanent roots because I've had the chance to explore other areas. I know that my home city isn't perfect, but I also know exactly what I'm gaining and what I'm giving up by living there. I don't think I would have been as satisfied if I had stayed there the whole time, always wondering "what if."
My only big regret is not yet having had the chance to live in NYC - I figure maybe that can be our retirement adventure.
Good luck with whatever route you end up choosing.
I love adventure. Sometimes a move like that is great and sometimes it's really a let down. It's a matter of if you have safeguards in place in case the move doesn't work out. If you do have safeguards and it's something you want to try, go for it as long as you can accept the possibility of the unknown.
I would make the move. If you never satisfy your longing, you will never be happy. If it turns out to be something other than what you expected, you can always go back.
Lots of people talk about wanting to move away from places they don't like, but what if that's not really the dilemma? If someone had these two choices, what would you (based on your life experience) recommend (for person in twenties - early thirties)?
Choice 1 - Continue to live near family and friends and work at job with good coworkers. Life isn't great but it's not bad either.
Choice 2 - Move to place you've dreamed about living in for about five years (for various reasons related to that area that aren't relevant), can get decent job and afford good quality of life.. Will be away from family, no friends already there (but can make friends pretty quickly based upon past experience.)
Basically the choice is between remaining in a good (but not great) situation but possibly regretting not moving OR moving but possibly regretting the move with no option of being able to go back to current good situation.
Okay, if anyone needs encouragement to leave a place and move on, talk to me!
First question, why would you say, if you left, you may "not be able to go back to current good situation"? Can you explain?
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It sounds like a pretty unanimous recommendation to move ..
