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I'm a woman, and I would, and have, offered my seat to anyone who looks like they need to sit down, someone carrying something, someone with a baby, or young child. You could be a 28 year old healthy male carrying something heavy, and I would offer my seat to you. I'm not usually carrying something and I don't have a baby to hold, and I wouldn't expect a man to offer me his seat. I can stand just as well as a man can
It's refreshing to hear a comment like this from a female poster.
It's refreshing to hear a comment like this from a female poster.
Just about every female posting to this tread has said the same: They don't feel a man should give up a seat for an able bodied women and they as women give up their seats to those in need, male or female.
The only difference is some women are offended by the offer, some women feel delighted by the offer, some women feel it is appropriate to refuse the offer, some women feel it is inappropriate to refuse.
I think both men and women should give their seats to those WHO NEED IT: pregnant women, a handicap person, the elder, someone in crutches, someone who has too much in their hands, someone carrying a baby, etc. All these also include men except the pregnancy scenario of course.
Not sure if a woman would give her seat to a man who was in any situation mentioned in my first paragraph but it would also be a nice gesture. Nice gestures like this are mainly focused from man to woman but both are totally capable of doing them to each other.
I have given up my seat for a male that needed it more than me, and i am definitely all female.
It's funny how long this thread has gone on. It's repeating the same things over and over. No women are on here begging for seats. I don't think anyone wants that. I think there are polite people and rude people. A polite person (like me) will offer a seat. It's that simple.
A male should give his seat up to someone who needs it more, and vice versa. I give up my seat for the elderly, disabled, pregnant women (trust me they need it), and a person with a baby or small child (regardless of gender). I also would let someone sit down if they had a heavy package.
A very few of the posters seem a bit bitter about women's rights. I just don't get why someone is upset that women are treated as equals today, or why they think we would prefer to be coddled. "Oh yes, I can't work for equal pay, but at least every guy will give me his seat on the bus."
Men benefit from equal rights for both genders. They have an equal partner who shares the burden of providing for their families, and more time spent with their children. This is the best time to be a male or female in the USA. Either gender can pretty much do what they want with less gender norms. I know lots of SAHD's and men in female dominated fields. It's more about becoming your authentic self.
It boils down to what kind of person you want to be. Hint: it's either polite, indifferent, or rude. You are free to pick one.
I give up my seat if someone needs it more than I do. It's just common sense and the right thing to do. I appreciate kindness, good manners, and empathy.
As a general rule, NO. In light of the feminist movement (and, note, I consider myself of feminist), I don't believe in treating similarly situated individuals differently merely on account of sex/gender. Thus, while I'll give up my seat to a pregnant woman who is showing (I'll also give up my seat to the elderly or disabled, whether male or female), I won't give my seat up to a generic woman just because its the "chivalrous" thing to do.
How many times in your life have any of you observed a man give up a seat to an able bodied woman that was not his wife.
When living in New Orleans, that was the norm. I understand the whole concept of southern hospitality, but seeing the practice was a bit nauseating (still, I'm not going to fault people for giving up their own seats . . . just don't guilt/expect me to do the same). Living in NYC, its not unheard of/unseen, but its certainly not the norm.
I'll offer a seat to anyone that appears to need it (carrying lots of bags, some physical disability etc.).
For women that aren't carrying much and are "reasonably" able-bodied, I will offer a seat to the following:
1.) Technically old enough to be my mother (my current age plus 15 years...so age 44-ish at least)
2.) Pregnant or a single mom with kid(s)
Younger women that are moderately attractive or just have large breasts/butts will usually have several guys looking to offer them a seat.
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