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I generally open doors for everyone (and an elderly man, can go through the door ahead of me in addition to elderly women, the pregnant, and the child). I’d give up my seat for folks in the preferred categories but I find I’m in a terrible position now; I have sciatica, but I don’t look like I have sciatica (too young and girly). Plenty of men don’t stand for me; and I'm not ready for disability, but I've also had plenty of experiences standing on the platform waiting for a train, where I've shifted the wrong way and thought, panicky, "Man, I almost threw my back out there..." (Which, I suppose, is why for a while the NYC subway lecture about giving up the handicapped seats, thoughtfully included the slug, "Not all disabilities are visible.")
Men also never stood for me when I was in a walking cast with a foot fracture, and while I was standing on about a 225-block subway ride thus attired, some lady got on a few stops ahead of me, TWO walking casts and TWO canes, so conspicuous you’d think she was cross country skiing. Every human being of any gender (though most seated were men in that instance), pretended they didn’t notice her. We both stood all the way home. I could've gotten accommodations on handicapped transportation - if I could've gotten a forward-facing diagnosis from my doctor of more than 2 weeks' length, to which he would not commit.
what if the woman is not really a woman? in some cities they have a lot of cross dressers / trannys, would you still be a gentleman treat them like a lady?
But it really depends on the person and/or on my mood. If they look rude (you can tell from their face) or if I'm having a bad day, I won't give my seat to anyone.
I have opened doors (or kept them opened) for both men AND women. If anything, it actually makes me more "masculine" when I aid other men (open doors for them, help them pick up something, etc). I don't know why...
I still believe in chivalry.. so yeah, I offer up my seat to a woman. How she chooses to respond is at her discretion..
Same here. This is how I was raised. Last time I rode public transportation was in the late 1990's in Washington, DC. Every woman I offered my seat to took it and thanked me.
When I ride a public bus that becomes crowded, I don't like sitting down while others are right over me. In that case I will just go stand by the back door where the air is fresher. The people standing then decide among themselves who will sit. More often than not: no one wants to sit down, probably for the same reason I got up.
I too was raised this way and it's caused considerable questions in the workplace. Heck I even say "ma'am" and "sir" to the kids behind the counter at Wendy's.
After having had my head handed to me a couple of times, I almost never open a door for women. I've even had women carrying boxes scream at me that holding the door for them was insulting. "No ma'am, just figured you couldn't reach the handle since your hands were full. Here, I'll shut it for you." (Satisfying clatter of boxes hitting the floor as she tried to balance them in one hand and open the door with the other.)
I've never had anything like this happen before and I would never stoop to doing what you describe here.
Hey CD women. None seems to have addressed what I posted. I still hold doors open for women and so few ever acknowledge this anymore like they did years past. What are your thoughts on why this is?
I will only give up my seat for a elderly person or someone who is struggling to stand up. I don't care if there are a Woman or a Man.
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