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Avalon08...I'd love to read your Mom's book too! Can you self-publish it and market/distribute it through the Internet?..Or is it too personal?...I was going through some boxes today and I found some of my older son's poems and prose...He wrote satire and science fiction...I always considered his writing a bit on the cynical side. He was an "irony of life" kind of guy! Where my younger son had a tendency to be "Mr. Positive!"...I'm probably a little of both!...Anyway I'd love to read your Mom's account of growing-up in a large Irish Catholic family! My Mom was Irish and Catholic too!
You know, I've thought about that, but have no idea how to do it! I really think my Mom's book is great -- of course, I'm biased -- but I'm flattered and honored (and she would be too!) that you'd like to read it. Seriously, if you DM me your address, I'll make you a copy next time I'm at Staples and mail it to you! Meanwhile, I should look into self-publishing....if my goofy neighbor could self-publish some haunted murder mystery, I can do it too!
Avalon08...I think you should look into publishing your Mom's book. I'm sure they can help you at Staples. You can make good copies yourself and use a spiral-binding kit..You can design the front cover. (And use heavier cardstock for the front and back covers.)...Maybe you can create an "introduction page" with a short "bio" about your Mom. And even include photos if you want!...But it's all up to you!. Good luck whatever you decide to do!...I'll send you a DM with my address. Thanks for sending me a copy when it's convenient. Can't wait to read your Mom's book and stories! YEA!
The best gift death has given me is that each day is one step closer to your own death.
Another thing it has taught me is that life is highly overrated and the navigation of such is something that is mandatory like having to take required classes in high school and college.
Once you get through it you can then go on to graduate.
Death taught me one thing. That there is no such thing as death with dignity- That death is to be avoided at all cost. That we must protect all others from death to the best of our ability and that there is NOTHING positive about death. The fear of it will lower the quality of life. The only thing death may have taught me was not to fear it.
Some gather by the dying - they sit at the bed side of those in the process of leaving this world...Myself- I don't want to watch anyone take their last breath- I avoid those moments...I will visit you but I do not want to be there for the END...The only death I want to witness is my own...cos I feel so sorry for the dying...it;s just too heart breaking- no one wants to leave this heaven...
Recently my mother in law passed away...She had no fear what so ever and was warned by doctors that after being taken off the kidney machine...she would be dead in about 10 days...She said to the doctor..."So you want me to commit suicide?" That is exactly what they wanted..because she could not endure an amputation she opted for suicide through the refusal of more life extending treatments- She finally said no to science.
So she was fully aware of what was to come...Her last words were - "Jesus- how long are you going to drag thing thing out?" It took a long time- The young woman her grand daughters and there are a few of them- came and tended the body....it was very old fashioned...actually it is the living that grant dignity to the dying- though love... I guess that is what I really learned - Love does conquer death...There was serous love around that death bed....pure and honest.
To be fully honest- all of us have terror run through are hearts at the thought of oblivion...of not existing anymore...of being gone for eternity. Sure I can say I have no fear or doubt- I am a liar...Put the angelic quality aside and look at the animal part of being a human being- Once you age you are like a dog- and you get comfortable with the idea of death- because the way we are devices nature will remove the fear near the end....as for GOD- not one human being has ever reported back from the other side... The best we can hope for is mercy and love from the eternal force .....Dear God go easy on me at the end- cos' I an like a little child and I am afraid of the dark....The angelic part of the human may continue....if not- amen- the gift of being born and living a life span in this world- is something I am thankful for....IT IS A DIVINE AND WONDERFUL EXPERIENCE....I love the fact that I got to come here....THANK YOU......
Speaking to this 97 year old man the other day- I asked him "How did you stay alive for so long?" He said - that every day he asks for ONE MORE DAY - just one more...every day you get is a sign of mercy and love...again - the one thing I learned about death- is what a miracle it is to live...We are in heaven and don't even know it.
About kids...My younger son always "stuck around." He was a "family guy!"...But my older son went out into the world on his "own" and didn't "look back" or stay in touch very often...His "world" fell apart the year before he died. His wife asked for a divorce. And he lost his high-status and high-paying job in the dot.com field and couldn't find a comparable job. (He was laid-off due to a merger.)...Anyway he came back into our lives as the "prodigal son." He said he missed us!...I'm glad we had that last year together before he died... I sure miss both of my sons and wish they were still "here." (With me!)
If the person has lead a long life then I tend to celebrate that life. I just learned tho that a friend who is 63 has terminal cancer;that will be a different story. Death of younger people tend to be harder to take overall ;IMO.Postive things;lived for today because you never know when you will die;basically.
I found out that grief has a beautiful aspect that I never knew existed - it teaches us gratitude and appreciation.
So very true, Kathryn. Spelled the same as my middle name, always wished it was my first name
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