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In doing genealogy the past 15 years gave me clues why my grandfathEr and father were the way they were. My grandfather was the youngest of three kids so he was spoiled as my dad was being an only child.
Usually family traits are handed down but sometimes there are rare occassions a family member will be totally opposite to their parents traits. IMO
Never met my father , and he never knew I was born... when my mum was dying of cancer in 99 she said asked me if Id like to have met him and looked quite surprised when I said Yes.. so she said....." Well why not try to find him", then funnily she said....".OH he'll be dead"... a year after she died I went looking and sadly he had died a year exactly before my mum did, and on the same day as my step dad.. hows that for coincidences..
Never met my father , and he never knew I was born... when my mum was dying of cancer in 99 she said asked me if Id like to have met him and looked quite surprised when I said Yes.. so she said....." Well why not try to find him", then funnily she said....".OH he'll be dead"... a year after she died I went looking and sadly he had died a year exactly before my mum did, and on the same day as my step dad.. hows that for coincidences..
That was quite a coincidence. Were you able to find anything about him and his history?
That was quite a coincidence. Were you able to find anything about him and his history?
yes I did actually find quite a bit of history from one of his families in England..who sent me photos too, and also obtained his Death Certificate. so at least I have some small things that belonged to him..When I got the death cert I didnt notice much about the date of his death at first, it was months later after finding my step dads funeral bill that I noticed the same dates... although I have to admit that my dads death date was approx. as he was found dead in his home on his own. so it might have been a day out..
My father died 9 days after his 46th birthday on Jan. 21, 1968 - 45 years ago. Still miss him and often think of all the questions I should have asked ... but was too young to care ..
I thought the same thing about my Dad and Mother, as well, but I too was too young, and busy with my own family. My mother once sat with her grandmother ( my great-grandma), and made a cassette of some of the things in her life. I do have that to listen to. My Mother became very secretive in her later years, so all that I know about her side of the family is what I learned from talking to her early on. I moved my Dad close to us in the years before he passed, because his health was failing so we were able to talk about some things I was curious about. But the sad thing was that his dementia got worse, and there was a lot of gaps in his memory, so there was probably a lot that I never found out. I learned a lot of family history, but there was still a lot of questions left. All my kids for reasons they have chosen, that are beyond my scope of understanding, have estranged themselves from me, so all the family history resides in my head, and on paper, and so whether or not they care to preserve it is up to them. I am at least glad I was able to learn our family history, and share the time having it related to me by my parents. I get a better appreciation of the joys, trials, heartaches, and discoveries that my ancestors experienced that helped to make me part of who I am today.
I thought the same thing about my Dad and Mother, as well, but I too was too young, and busy with my own family. My mother once sat with her grandmother ( my great-grandma), and made a cassette of some of the things in her life. I do have that to listen to. My Mother became very secretive in her later years, so all that I know about her side of the family is what I learned from talking to her early on. I moved my Dad close to us in the years before he passed, because his health was failing so we were able to talk about some things I was curious about. But the sad thing was that his dementia got worse, and there was a lot of gaps in his memory, so there was probably a lot that I never found out. I learned a lot of family history, but there was still a lot of questions left. All my kids for reasons they have chosen, that are beyond my scope of understanding, have estranged themselves from me, so all the family history resides in my head, and on paper, and so whether or not they care to preserve it is up to them. I am at least glad I was able to learn our family history, and share the time having it related to me by my parents. I get a better appreciation of the joys, trials, heartaches, and discoveries that my ancestors experienced that helped to make me part of who I am today.
I wish to thank all posters as your posts have helped me to keep adding to my genealogy. Someone will appreciate my info sometime. IMO
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