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What a shame this thread has deteriorated (sp ?) as I started out thinking one thing an learned additional things along the way that gave me greater insight to the discussion. I am not a B &W person so, I am always open to changing my mind.....<s>
I am sorry that we too often jump on people that we disagree with, all in the name of "our truth"......
In the Great Debate forum I would have asked questions like whether it is okay to have a prolonged grief for a pet when there is so much human misery around?
Maybe not 10 months like you are but yes, it is perfectly normal to mourn your pet.
I would have asked whether missing a pet more than an immediate loved one can be 'normal'?
Yes. Like someone else said, I would rather spend my time with my dog than other people sometimes.
I would have asked if it would be 'normal' for pet loss to alter a person's outlook on life?
Yes. Usually makes a person happier.
Perhaps making him/her more somber for long/permanent terms?
No. Usually they open you up to want another commitment to another pet. No relationship is guarenteed to be either long or permanent. Especially with animals.
I would have asked whether we see a reflection of our own mortality in a pet's loss?
Not generally.
A reflection of our own growth and decline through our experiences with our pets?
I think you are putting too much emphasis on "me" in a pet/owner relationship. Relax. Just enjoy your pet and relish that unconditional love you will get. Live in the moment like your pet does.
When i lost my solomon island eclectus parrot I knew it was the worst day i would ever have in my life. So now i do not fear death anymore. I was an atheist before i got her and she became my god.. had to get another one as i could not even look at her cage without crying .It has been 3 yrs. i am much better but i still cry when i talk about her like I am now..It was not as bad as when my mother or father died.. So if you think you are bad forget it..They say it takes time but I know nothing will make it easier for me..Good luck and If you decide to get another dog save a life at your humane society.They kill millions a year due to peoples ignorance of not neutering their animals
Wait, so this thread was some kind of test/experiment to see what people would say? The poster is not grieving the loss of his dog?
Pretty tacky to post in the grief and mourning forum then get upset that people are offering condolences and advice.
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Originally Posted by cindersslipper
sick sad weird and pretty much a karmic guarantee every pet he ever DOES have, will die on him.
I got a "vibe" a few pages back. That is why I suggested, IMO, to move away from this thread. Maybe I was "getting" what he was posting a little more. I dunno. Whatever, if we choose to talk about our departed fur babies here though, I say "go for it!"
I am sorry to all of us who have known the heartache of losing a beloved companion.
Question: Have I gone too far in mourning? Is it okay to stay in grieving as long as it takes?
No not at all........ No one knows HOW MUCH YOU FEEL FOR YOUR DOG!!!!!
Dont let others dictate your reaction!!! -- We all love and miss loved ones IN OUR OWN WAYS!!!!!
Peace and love to you!
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