Is this a tacky gesture for a funeral? :/

[melissapla12]

One of my friends from high school just lost her son in an accident. He was 7. She posted updates on FB about him being on life support & asked for prayers. Last night she decided to take him off and he passed.

We talked in HS and said hi here and there on Facebook. I feel terrible for her. I don't feel comfortable attending the funeral services because
1. We weren't that close
2. I'm honestly scared of seeing a child in a casket. I know I don't have go see him but even from afar it's just too much for me.

I wanted to send flowers. I just paid bills off & I can't afford to buy an arrangement from a florist. Would it be tacky to make one on my own & deliver it to the funeral home?

[Lost Roses]

Of course it wouldn't be tacky. It's from the heart and that's what counts, not the cost or the florist's tag.

[suzy_q2010]

Originally Posted by melissapla12

One of my friends from high school just lost her son in an accident. He was 7. She posted updates on FB about him being on life support & asked for prayers. Last night she decided to take him off and he passed.

We talked in HS and said hi here and there on Facebook. I feel terrible for her. I don't feel comfortable attending the funeral services because
1. We weren't that close
2. I'm honestly scared of seeing a child in a casket. I know I don't have go see him but even from afar it's just too much for me.

I wanted to send flowers. I just paid bills off & I can't afford to buy an arrangement from a florist. Would it be tacky to make one on my own & deliver it to the funeral home?

It would not be tacky but truly a gesture from the heart. I would also suggest an inexpensive card with a note that says you are thinking of her and how sorry you are for her loss.

[suzy_q2010]

Originally Posted by Lost Roses

Of course it wouldn't be tacky. It's from the heart and that's what counts, not the cost or the florist's tag.

Did not read this before I posted! Like minds ...

[dizzybint]

You only look at the body if you want to.. theres no pressure.. and it s nice you want to make your own arrangement of flowers..

[Zeurich]

you feel terrible really? then how could you say

I don't feel comfortable attending the funeral services because
1. We weren't that close

[Sarahsez]

I think a thoughtful, well written card would work even better than flowers.

[melissapla12]

Originally Posted by Zeurich

you feel terrible really? then how could you say

By that I meant we wouldnt hang out together outside of school. After she graduated she had her first child, got married & left the city. We didn't keep in contact until FB came around.

[veuvegirl]

Originally Posted by Sarahsez

I think a thoughtful, well written card would work even better than flowers.

I agree with this. I think a nice note would be even better. If you can afford make a donation to a cause in her son's name. See if there is one listed in the announcement.

I cannot imagine the pain she is going through.....

[melissapla12]

Originally Posted by veuvegirl

I agree with this. I think a nice note would be even better. If you can afford make a donation to a cause in her son's name. See if there is one listed in the announcement.

I cannot imagine the pain she is going through.....

They set up a "Go Fund Me" account to help with the funeral services. I wanted to make a small donation there and and make a small floral arrangement as well. (A football theme floral arrangement since he was in Pee Wee Football)