7 years since mother passed away

[SeanToronto]

it was in 2008 when my mother passed away and I was only 14 at the time and now I'm 21, I still feel like the death of my mother was such a horrible thing to ever happen to me and I feel like it was a curse and bad luck, ever since I have been thinking about it and still cannot stop thinking about it, I still feel very uncomfortable when people talk about my mom and them thinking that she is still alive, I burst in tears sometimes when people ask me how my mother is? but not infront of them, I usually get emotional right after I have the conversation with them, these people don't know that she is dead and so it bothers me when they talk about her when shes dead, how do I get over this? how do I tell people that my mother is not alive?

[G Grasshopper]

When someone makes the assumption that you have a living mother (which is pretty natural, as most people your age do,) I would simply say "I'm sorry, but my mother passed away several years ago." You do not have to explain any further if you don't want to. Also realize that no one is making this assumption to hurt you - they don't know. Are you in college? If so, you might want to go to the counseling office there, which may be free, to discuss this. My husband did that when he was in college, concerning his father, and he has always felt that it was really helpful in helping him to go on in life without the burdens he was carrying. It is normal to miss those we love whom we have lost, even for many years. But you lost your mom when you were a child. That is a very hard thing. If your grief interferes with your life after seven years, I think it may be time to seek some counseling. It could make a real difference in your life.