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My father passed away unexpectedly on Monday and I am still alternating between shock and sorrow.
I am the 'strong' one in the family so managed to somehow keep a straight face the past couple of days. I will be fine for a while but then will have a thought or see something to remind me he's gone then the tears come back.
When does the pain end? I can't even think about him without crying
I'm sorry for the loss of your father. It has only been a couple of days. Everyone's grief is different, and everyone's relationship to the lost love one is different. So no one can tell you when the pain will end. But do be patient with yourself. The pain of grief is normal, and takes its own time to decrease. In the meantime, take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, don't push to "get over it," but do what feels right to you. If you want to look at pictures, write to him, visit places he enjoyed, or just sit and think, its all OK. If you don't need to do that sort of thing, that's OK, too. Don't feel that you have to be strong for others; do what feels right for you.
Most people say that there is always a place in their heart that misses the one we love. Even so, those who mourn do get to a place where they can live normal lives and not be constantly grieving, so don't worry about that. Just accept your feelings as they come, and believe that at some point, things will be OK.
Marie, my condolences to you and yours. Please give yourself all the time and space you need to grieve. There's no timetable, no rush. Do what you need to do to take gentle care of yourself at this time, and in the weeks and months to come.
It is my hope that you shared wonderful times with your father - those memories will give you much comfort in the days ahead. He lives on in you.
Marie, I am sorry for the loss of your father. The pain ends differently for different people. But the pain does end eventually.
I lost my father in 2007. I thought I was ok, then at a moments notice I would come to tears when I think about him.
Once, on the way to work about a month after he had passed and I started crying while driving because I was thinking of him and how I was no longer going to see him.
This is normal, but it does end. I am now at the point where when I think of my father, I think of the happy times and memories. At some point you will come to that point too. Just give it some time.
Marie, I am sorry for the loss of your father. The pain ends differently for different people. But the pain does end eventually.
I lost my father in 2007. I thought I was ok, then at a moments notice I would come to tears when I think about him.
Once, on the way to work about a month after he had passed and I started crying while driving because I was thinking of him and how I was no longer going to see him.
This is normal, but it does end. I am now at the point where when I think of my father, I think of the happy times and memories. At some point you will come to that point too. Just give it some time.
I wish you well.
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So sorry for your loss.....in time you'll be able to look back with fond memories.
Oh, I am sorry Marie! I only know you from your posts but I wish I could help you.
The only thing I know is that you should cry. You can be strong & cry at the same time ... crying does not equal weakness, in fact; crying will make you stronger. You must, before you cannot cry for fear of never stopping.
I have buried a daughter, a stillborn baby boy & my mother & I selfishly sometimes wish that I would die before my dad. I am stoic & that is mistaken for strength but I am not strong.
How lucky your father is to have a competent daughter like you at his death, as I am sure you were a blessing to him during his life as well.
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