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Last week, a longtime family friend passed away. He took a bad fall, never recuperated, and just mentally (as well as physically) deteriorated...
Now just a few days ago, a longtime buddy of mine (we grew up together) succumbed to kidney cancer. He was diagnosed just a few months prior...
Now tonight, I get the news that a former colleague has passed.
As for my childhood buddy, I was asked to eulogize him (the services are later this week). Usually, I'm good at handling death, and I do feel I must get up and speak. My fear is that I might just lose it while delivering the eulogy; I've delivered eulogies before, but this one... I don't know.
Firstly, my condolences. I’ve been there—when it rains, it pours—and it sucks. Just keep moving forward and focus on grieving as well as self-care; it’s important to do both.
If you’ve already agreed to do the eulogy, then I would just do your best. Keep it short but meaningful.
Moreover, no one is going to judge you for being emotional during a eulogy. However, if you think that it might be to the point that you won’t be able to continue or finish, I would consider having a second—someone who might be able to continue the eulogy if you are overcome. I would just let the family know beforehand if you decide to go that route. At that point, they may even offer to have someone else deliver the eulogy instead.
What StarlaJane said. No one would find fault with you for breaking down. I've seen it happen.
I think that you have too much going on to do this. It's not one thing after a long serene period. No one, not any member of his family or extended family can stand up and say something, anything about him? It's not your job.
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