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Just got a call from a good friend/former neighbor giving me the news that a mutual close friend called her 20 year old son down for breakfast this morning(he came home from college for the weekend) and he did not answer. She went into his room and he had killed himself.
This is so unbelievable as this young man seemed to have it all...smart, driven, attends a great university, funny, handsome...he even worked for us a few summers during high school.
My heart just aches for my friend but yet I have no idea what I can do. We (our circle of friends) have already gotten together the obligatory meal schedule and I will be hosting the get together after the funeral probably Tuesday or Wednesday...
What else can I do? I feel like I should have them stay here or if they do not want to be with people right now, maybe put them up in a nice hotel.
My friends and I are also getting ideas together to form a foundation in his name.
Even though I know we all come from different religious backgrounds, all of you being amazing people, could you pray, meditate, chant, send good energy, plant a tree, whatever moves you, could you just send some good energy to my friend and her family? They need it so badly right now.
You literally gave me the chills. As a parent I can think of nothing worse. I will be "mentioning" this young man and his family to my God this morning, as I have to contact him regarding another matter, one that could be of life and death urgency as well; though I am hoping otherwise.
You never know what's inside anyone. There is a small margin of error for any of us let alone a young person who's carrying the additional burden of coming of age.
Maybe we really will all meet in another place, cured, resolved, at peace...
You literally gave me the chills. As a parent I can think of nothing worse. I will be "mentioning" this young man and his family to my God this morning, as I have to contact him regarding another matter, one that could be of life and death urgency as well; though I am hoping otherwise.
You never know what's inside anyone. There is a small margin of error for any of us let alone a young person who's carrying the additional burden of coming of age.
Maybe we really will all meet in another place, cured, resolved, at peace...
I feel the same...how could any of us know the pain he carried? My heart breaks at the thought of him feeling like whatever he was experiencing was never going to get better and there was no hope knowing a new day would come with a new perspective and renewed strength.
Thank you for your prayers...his family will need them...
Should I have them stay here, if they would like? Their house is not a place for them to be right now since there are some rather blatant reminders right now.
I just cannot put myself in their shoes and anticipate what they may need...my mind and heart cannot take me there.
I feel the same...how could any of us know the pain he carried? My heart breaks at the thought of him feeling like whatever he was experiencing was never going to get better and there was no hope knowing a new day would come with a new perspective and renewed strength.
Thank you for your prayers...his family will need them...
Should I have them stay here, if they would like? Their house is not a place for them to be right now since there are some rather blatant reminders right now.
I just cannot put myself in their shoes and anticipate what they may need...my mind and heart cannot take me there.
I'm so sorry, what a horrible thing. Our thoughts are with you all. I think offering to have them stay with you would be a very kind gesture, I'm sure it's very hard to be in their home right now. I'm guessing all they will need in the next several days is the support of their friends and family.
I will certainly pray for this family. I can't even imagine the heartache they must be feeling. That is such a hard age. It is easy for young people to get overwhelmed. So very sad.
Sounds like you are doing some great things. The foundation in his name is a wonderful idea.
I think what people forget is to continue to talk about them. I remember when my brother died years ago mom said when she would see even good friends they would not mention him. It makes them feel like his life had no meaning. I also when I write a card try to mention things that they did or said that really affected my life.
You sound like a wonderful friend
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