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OK guys I'm kinda upset right now. So I've been trying to find a clinic to go get tested for STD/STI's in my hometown & I still live at home so my mom's being hella nosy about "why I want to go to the Dr" and it's pissing me off I'm in my early '20s, don't I have a right to privacy?! I mean, I am on her insurance so I guess that's why she wants to know.
I'm not a sexually active person but I have "fooled around" with guys I've dated in the past & would like to just check myself to be sure, I also want to get the HPV vaccine but I haven't been to an obgyn because apparently the last obgyn I went to in my college town said that my "hymen was still intact" etc., she tested me after I broke up with my ex & I was clean. I don't have any signs of any STDs but I'd still like to know if I'm clean in 2011, is that a good call & why is my mom being so nosy about my business?
there's nothing wrong with checking to see that you are healthy, but I'd totally skip the hpv vaccine if I were you......Your mother has every right to get in your face and to know your business if you're living in her home, and she's supporting you.Negative Side Effects & Dangers of Gardasil by Merck
I'm in my early '20s, don't I have a right to privacy?! I mean, I am on her insurance so I guess that's why she wants to know.
This is a very good question. The short, simple answer is that you are an adult, and your mother does not have a legal right to know about your medical treatment, unless you allow her access to this information. The mere fact that you are covered by her insurance policy does not give her a right to access your Protected Health Information. What this means is that your MD will (or should) refuse to release any medical information to your mother without your consent.
That said, it is going to be logistically difficult to hide it from your mother if you get an STD test and/or the HPV Vaccine, if you use insurance to pay for the services. The insurance company will probably send and EOB (Explanation of Benefits) to your mother, which will contain a summary of the services that were rendered. The alternative it to pay for these services out-of-pocket. This is not an inexpensive option, though you might find affordable fees at some women’s clinics.
I'd just tell your mom that you want to go for annual checkups and vaccinations. If you haven't gotten the new dTaP (w/ pertussis) then it's probably a good excuse. Also if you haven't gotten hep b and A done. Throw in the HPV vaccine. I don't think some insurances will cover the HPV though so it might cost you a pretty penny. Plus you will need to go multiple times for the injections.
Go to the County Health Dept. Whatever it costs, it will be cheaper than at a doctor's office. Or if you are in school, go to the Student Health Center.
planned parenthood offers full screenings on an income based scale. most cities have a planned parenthood and many larger towns do too!
good idea on the student health center too
as for the HPV vaccine, i looked into it, i didnt find it worth the risks associated...fristly it only protects against a small number of hpv strains and many of the strains it DOESNT protect against also cause cancer... plus its got a tendency towards some rather nasty side effects.
If you don't want your mom to know, why tell her? I would think that if you are on her insurance, you should still have your own insurance card to take to the doctor with you. Although, when the insurance company processes the claim, they will probably mail her a statement that tells her what they paid, on whatever date of service, and then she'll know you went to the doctor. In that case, you are better off going to your nearest Planned Parenthood for an appointment and information about the vaccine.
OK guys I'm kinda upset right now. So I've been trying to find a clinic to go get tested for STD/STI's in my hometown & I still live at home so my mom's being hella nosy about "why I want to go to the Dr" and it's pissing me off I'm in my early '20s, don't I have a right to privacy?! I mean, I am on her insurance so I guess that's why she wants to know.
I'm not a sexually active person but I have "fooled around" with guys I've dated in the past & would like to just check myself to be sure, I also want to get the HPV vaccine but I haven't been to an obgyn because apparently the last obgyn I went to in my college town said that my "hymen was still intact" etc., she tested me after I broke up with my ex & I was clean. I don't have any signs of any STDs but I'd still like to know if I'm clean in 2011, is that a good call & why is my mom being so nosy about my business?
Wouldn't your mom be proud that you actually want to go to a GYN? Every woman should go. If my daughter wanted testing I'd be happy to take her unless your mom doesn't approve of something?
I don't see how you'll be able to keep anything from her if you do use her insurance. Take my daughter who is 17; every time she goes to the Dr her father knows because it's his insurance; just like with your mom- she would know too because of the explanation of benefits. The only way he doesn't know is if we don't use it. I'm also not sure about the medical laws with adult students covered under a parents plan. When my son was going to college; he did not want his dad having access to his grades but we had to because he was paying part of the loan. I know this is not a medical comparison but your mom may also be able to do something similar with your records. Is she required by law to keep medical coverage on you? She could be a biatch & cancel your coverage.
As was mentioned, do your research on the HPV vaccine; because certain women should not get it such as my daughter who has medical problems. If you have any medical problems; no matter how small; you may want to make sure it's not similar to the side effects- say current muscle/joint pain. There are a few posts in this section (search Gardasil) about healthy girls who have had the vaccine but now have health problems from side effects. I have doctors who would not have their child get the vaccine but there are others that would. Everyone needs to make up their own mind about it.
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I'm in my early '20s, don't I have a right to privacy?! I mean, I am on her insurance so I guess that's why she wants to know.
