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I'm tired of not mixing well with people. I'm 31 and have been a loner since I was 17.
This thread is not meant to be negative, but I've had enough. Now people can understand why I posted those threads about being at the normal mental level.
Samston, I know where you're coming from. Sometimes the answer can be rather simple though you've got to find it. In my case I found out 5 years ago that I have inattentive ADD, which caused me to not do well with people b/c I didn't read social signals very well. Now I take adderall, and it's opened up a whole new world for me and I have some friends and get along a lot better with co-workers. I'm still not organized and I still procrastinate, but I don't care about those things as much as being able to get along with people.
There are other things you could look into also. Asperger's can cause social disabilities to an even worse extent. I have a friend with OCD who also has social anxiety. You might want to look into some of the disorders that I've mentioned, or go see a psydoc and see if you can get some help. I am so thankful that I did--I don't feel like such a weird person anymore--just someone with a slight wiring problem and I felt this huge overwhelming sense of relief when I finally got my dx. The best part is that it was so easy to fix with meds--I only take 10 mg adderall xr, which is about half of a starter dose, but I'm sensitive to pills and if I take a higher dose, I lose the social advantages. It's hard to believe that a pill could make you more social, but I make better eye contact now, which is extremely important, and I'm more attentive to conversations. Also, I find it easier to cue into people's body language. Interestingly though, even when my social skills were at an all-time low, I was able to read peoples' hearts with quite a lot of accuracy and still can--I have been taking in signals at a different frequency and people are always amazed at the insights that I have into the human character. I'm not sorry now that I've had the problems that I did--it's made me what I am.
Also, if you're like me, you've had a hard time coming on here and admitting to this--you probably have carried a sense of shame about it for a long time. But remember this--you're having problems with the root of basic human happiness--we all have a deep need to feel a sense of belonging and if you don't have that, you will not be happy. Lord, do I know that. I pray that you find the answer and feel free to consult me by DM whenever you need to. You are obviously an intelligent person and I know that you'll find what you need to know.
Oh, oh, and one more thing that has helped me. I have no idea how spiritual you are, but I've found that if I attempt to speak to someone's soul, rather than their ego, amazing things happen. Does that make sense?
Samston, I know where you're coming from. Sometimes the answer can be rather simple though you've got to find it. In my case I found out 5 years ago that I have inattentive ADD, which caused me to not do well with people b/c I didn't read social signals very well. Now I take adderall, and it's opened up a whole new world for me and I have some friends and get along a lot better with co-workers. I'm still not organized and I still procrastinate, but I don't care about those things as much as being able to get along with people.
There are other things you could look into also. Asperger's can cause social disabilities to an even worse extent. I have a friend with OCD who also has social anxiety. You might want to look into some of the disorders that I've mentioned, or go see a psydoc and see if you can get some help. I am so thankful that I did--I don't feel like such a weird person anymore--just someone with a slight wiring problem and I felt this huge overwhelming sense of relief when I finally got my dx. The best part is that it was so easy to fix with meds--I only take 10 mg adderall xr, which is about half of a starter dose, but I'm sensitive to pills and if I take a higher dose, I lose the social advantages. It's hard to believe that a pill could make you more social, but I make better eye contact now, which is extremely important, and I'm more attentive to conversations. Also, I find it easier to cue into people's body language. Interestingly though, even when my social skills were at an all-time low, I was able to read peoples' hearts with quite a lot of accuracy and still can--I have been taking in signals at a different frequency and people are always amazed at the insights that I have into the human character. I'm not sorry now that I've had the problems that I did--it's made me what I am.
Also, if you're like me, you've had a hard time coming on here and admitting to this--you probably have carried a sense of shame about it for a long time. But remember this--you're having problems with the root of basic human happiness--we all have a deep need to feel a sense of belonging and if you don't have that, you will not be happy. Lord, do I know that. I pray that you find the answer and feel free to consult me by DM whenever you need to. You are obviously an intelligent person and I know that you'll find what you need to know.
Oh, oh, and one more thing that has helped me. I have no idea how spiritual you are, but I've found that if I attempt to speak to someone's soul, rather than their ego, amazing things happen. Does that make sense?
Thanks for your comments.
I stand by my earlier threads from months ago. There really is no logical comeback. Disabilities require alleviation. Only a sociopath or madman would disagree with that.
I stand by my earlier threads from months ago. There really is no logical comeback. Disabilities require alleviation. Only a sociopath or madman would disagree with that.
Oh my Samston, can you explain what you mean? What kind of alleviation? Are you thinking about hurting yourself?
Well who is to say I cannot/should not? Nobody has a monopoly on which issue matters, and which does not. I never say that any person's thread means nothing.
As stated prior, my very initial points still stand.
Samston, I don't know which past posts you mean, but I have read some of your earlier posts. May I gently suggest that you need more help than we amateurs can offer?
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