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Old 03-23-2012, 07:00 PM
 
Location: Ocean County, New Jersey
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No Job, No Income. No Money. I'm totally overwhelmed and don't know where to turn to put my life back together again. My Anxiety level is very
high, I'm not sleeping, I'm sad, depressed, crying all the time, and just
feel like I want to die ........

I have never felt so helpless and hopeless and so horrible in my life...
I just don't know where to turn. I feel lonely, alone, with no on out
there that cares......

I feel like I don't have anyone I can talk to about this .....................
I'm facing Bankruptcy, losing my car, and trying to figure out where I will
find the money to meet my expenses for medications, doctors visits, food.

Can someone help me ?
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Old 03-23-2012, 07:31 PM
 
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It is easier to get a job when you have a job. McDonald's is always hiring. Start there and work your way out of the mess you are in. If you need to take bankruptcy in order to survive, do so. There is no shame in doing what you need to survive, as long as it is legal. Sell anything you have that you don't need. You may have to get several low paying jobs to bring in enough money to dig out, but it is possible. At one time I had a teaching job, a tutoring job, I delivered pizzas, and worked in a church nursery on Sunday mornings. It was hard and I was tired, but we survived and learned lots of lessons from it.
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Old 03-23-2012, 08:20 PM
 
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Sometimes, letting it all go, is the beginning of a new life. A homeless shelter is a place to "re-group". Hook up with a case manager, get some community resources. Many of us have been there. "When the going gets tough,the tough get going.".
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Old 03-23-2012, 08:32 PM
 
Location: Santa Cruz, CA
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Sometimes, letting it all go, is the beginning of a new life. A homeless shelter is a place to "re-group". Hook up with a case manager, get some community resources. Many of us have been there. "When the going gets tough,the tough get going.".
That was the gist of what i was thinking / feeling when i was reading the original post.
Although it's probably difficult if not impossible to perceive in that way at this time.
All the best PugDaddy ... so sorry that you're in this situation but people do care ... maybe not as many as would be ideal but they're out there.
Love to you.
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Old 03-23-2012, 08:48 PM
 
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That is true, when you are losing it all, you don't see it as a "freedom". But, from a perspective of 15 years later, it really is a "re-birth" opportunity. It will all work out.
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Old 03-23-2012, 11:36 PM
 
Location: earth?
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I would recommend finding someone to talk to .. . and I always recommend EFT for anxiety - there are lots of vids on YouTube.

You definitely need some support so reach out for it .. .and do notice what you can be grateful for - there must be something.

Then put one foot in front of the other and just focus on rebuilding.
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Old 03-24-2012, 05:58 PM
 
Location: Central US
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Pugdaddy,

Great advise from the people here. Get outside as much as possible. Nature is very healing for our soul and our feelings. Maybe a job of some kind at a shelter or animal shelter helping other people or animals would be a good move at this time, at least for a while. Helping other people is a great way to build your spirits back up and "get your grove back". Consider this time of your life as the bottom and you are definitely on your way back up. Caulk this up as experience and use it as a tool to grow and have a much better life. I'm praying for you.
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Old 03-24-2012, 06:05 PM
 
Location: Kansas
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Definitely get outside and do some walking if you can. I would try to connect with social services for your state and check to see if they have a mental health clinic in your city that operates on a sliding scale according to what you earn as most cities have these. If it turns out that this gets to be something you cannot handle and the idea of dying starts to seem like something you are leaning toward, please go to emergency room. These are the worst of times that I have seen in my long life. Definitely call social services and see if they can give you any direction or some sort of referral.
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Old 03-24-2012, 06:40 PM
 
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No Job, No Income. No Money. I'm totally overwhelmed and don't know where to turn to put my life back together again. My Anxiety level is very
high, I'm not sleeping, I'm sad, depressed, crying all the time, and just
feel like I want to die ........

I have never felt so helpless and hopeless and so horrible in my life...
I just don't know where to turn. I feel lonely, alone, with no on out
there that cares......

I feel like I don't have anyone I can talk to about this .....................
I'm facing Bankruptcy, losing my car, and trying to figure out where I will
find the money to meet my expenses for medications, doctors visits, food.

Can someone help me ?
I noticed your profile states you are retried.

Are you looking to go back to work??
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Old 03-24-2012, 07:04 PM
 
Location: Southern Illinois
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I noticed your profile states you are retried.

Are you looking to go back to work??
I'm sure that was a typo but it was very apt.

Pugdaddy, what kind of health issues do you have? Not trying to be nosy but it will give us an idea of how to help.
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