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Since the kids moved out the wife has become very messy/slovenly with books and paper and trash littering the floors in every room of the house,everytime i offer to help clean up the mess its an immediate argument with a retort of leave it alone or close the doors if you dont like it. at 68 yrs old and failing health i need her support and companionship but gee do i have to live in a pig stye?
Since the kids moved out the wife has become very messy/slovenly with books and paper and trash littering the floors in every room of the house,everytime i offer to help clean up the mess its an immediate argument with a retort of leave it alone or close the doors if you dont like it. at 68 yrs old and failing health i need her support and companionship but gee do i have to live in a pig stye?
I think you should clean it up anyway or hire someone to do it. It's your house too.
intervention and therapeutic help will not work as she doesnt think its a problem and says its none of my business,leave it alone,close the doors if it bothers you. , if a major fight ensues and divorce a threat whenever i mention the issue i guess i'm stuck with it,sorry for bringing up the issue,just needed to rant.
PS. this is just one room depicting what i'm talking about, the whole house is in similar chaos.= http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g1...psslxa8c8h.jpg
To keep the peace, would it be possible to let your wife have one room or floor? Like say the basement can hers to hoard as she sees fit but the kitchen and bathroom and front room need to always be clean and straight.
This has worked for two couples I know. Both get their way and they shut up about the other's habit...as long as it is in the designated area.
I'm sorry for you OP. I have compassion for your wife, she likely can't help it. (also for you too! sorry for you)
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intervention and therapeutic help will not work as she doesnt think its a problem and says its none of my business
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