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Yes, I have had experience with a family member who has NPD. It's a living h*ll to have any type of relationship with them. You will never be able to please her or worship her enough. They use people as doormats and have no love or respect for anyone. They are superior to all.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I will be here off and on and if you'd like to talk privately, you can DM me.
Dr. Hare~he's a Canadian psychiatrist who has spent years studying this and writing about it. He's done the MRIs of the incarcerated and he seems to have some valuable and accurate info. There are a lot of his findings on the internet and if you just search for his name, some things should pop up. PS~Avoid the ramblings of Sam Vaknin~long story, but neither he nor his info is reliable.
............ It's a living h*ll to have any type of relationship with them. You will never be able to please her or worship her enough. They use people as doormats and have no love or respect for anyone. They are superior to all.
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They also tend to like you enormously, you are the "best" for something, then later they turn on you and you are the worst. They try to split family members, some being the good guys and others being the bad guys. They tell you whatever they think you want to hear when they are "courting" you to get you to like/love/obey them so they can't ever be trusted.
Best advice is to keep a good distance emotionally (and physically if you can) and try to ignore the shifts in emotional behavior.
Yes, I have had experience with a family member who has NPD. It's a living h*ll to have any type of relationship with them. You will never be able to please her or worship her enough. They use people as doormats and have no love or respect for anyone. They are superior to all.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I will be here off and on and if you'd like to talk privately, you can DM me.
Dr. Hare~he's a Canadian psychiatrist who has spent years studying this and writing about it. He's done the MRIs of the incarcerated and he seems to have some valuable and accurate info. There are a lot of his findings on the internet and if you just search for his name, some things should pop up. PS~Avoid the ramblings of Sam Vaknin~long story, but neither he nor his info is reliable.
I started a thread on NPD for info about my friend's child and came across this thread. I am going to google Dr. Hare and have my friend do it also. Ever since she told me that she thought her daughter was acting exactly like her mother did, who we always believed had NPD, I've been fascinated by some of what I've found on the subject.
I know this is an old thread, but just wanted to say thanks for yet another resource to look into.
Dr. Hare~he's a Canadian psychiatrist who has spent years studying this and writing about it. He's done the MRIs of the incarcerated and he seems to have some valuable and accurate info.
My mother has this, best I can tell and she is about to push me over the edge. I don't even like to talk to her anymore because it is getting so bad.
Anyone have any experience dealing with this type of person?
Kristine
I feel for you - my 38 yr. old daughter has borderline personality disorder/bi polar which this combo is a Axis 2 disorder - she's very narristic and hard to deal with. counselors i have spoken to tell me to keep lines of communication open - but stay away from them. be there if they need you but be prepared for them to lie/steal/put everyone down/break a family apart. They are not happy unless they create: Trauma/turmoil/chaos/drama in everyone's lives....try to stay as far away and do very little interaction if possible. good luck dear.
My mother has NPD and is an alcoholic. I am no contact with her for the third time in my adult life. I had to make a decision, it was either her or me...I chose me.
Yes, I have had experience with a family member who has NPD. It's a living h*ll to have any type of relationship with them. You will never be able to please her or worship her enough. They use people as doormats and have no love or respect for anyone. They are superior to all.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I will be here off and on and if you'd like to talk privately, you can DM me.
Dr. Hare~he's a Canadian psychiatrist who has spent years studying this and writing about it. He's done the MRIs of the incarcerated and he seems to have some valuable and accurate info. There are a lot of his findings on the internet and if you just search for his name, some things should pop up. PS~Avoid the ramblings of Sam Vaknin~long story, but neither he nor his info is reliable.
You can't live with people like this. The bolded part explains my husband to the tee. That's why I'm so frighten to leave him. I also find that they are the most angry individuals you'll EVER meet.
Unless they are attending therapy regularly, they're impossible to live with and makes you think about offing yourself (hypothetically of course).
You can't live with people like this. The bolded part explains my husband to the tee. That's why I'm so frighten to leave him. I also find that they are the most angry individuals you'll EVER meet.
Unless they are attending therapy regularly, they're impossible to live with and makes you think about offing yourself (hypothetically of course).
Hun, this sounds like a cry for help. Please contact a battered women's agency ASAP if that's going on. Meanwhile we're here for you. You can also send a DM to anyone on here that you think would be best able to advise you.
My mother has this, best I can tell and she is about to push me over the edge. I don't even like to talk to her anymore because it is getting so bad.
Anyone have any experience dealing with this type of person?
Kristine
Yeah, my mother was NPD, too. When I was in my early 30s, I couldn't take it anymore and cut her out of my life. I felt all sorts of guilt over it for years, but I still believe that I made the right decision, no matter how painful it was.
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