Trying to decide to move to Missouri (Rolla, Ozark: home, living)

[christina0001]

That's great to have a job that is so mobile. I relocated here, too, almost 3 years ago. It was a big decision, and my family is still very upset with me. But I really like it here. I would recommend finding a 6 month rental. That will give you time to decide if you really like it well enough to stay, and it will also give you time to decide if you want to stay right where you are, or go to a different town/region of Missouri. If you need cable internet, you will need to be near the more populated areas...$400 a month is possible near the cities but you will have to do some research. Best of luck!

[ozarksboy]

Recapping, you said you want to leave your family, who love you and will miss you, to move to Missouri because your landlord doesn't maintain your building to suit you and you think you can't afford to move to a nicer place that will cost more money.

Originally Posted by theresnoplacelikehome

The management really does not maintain the building very well and I realy would like to move. The problem is I can only afford around $400 a month and I basically am priced out of the Pacific Northwest ... I am just not sure what to do.

I am in my 50s and have a grown daughter who lives in Oregon. I have several family members who live in Oregon. My family, sister in particular, thinks this is an absolutely terrible idea, to be away from the family and move that far away, especially since I do not know anyone in Missouri. I have tried over and over to explain to her that I do not want to stay in this apartment and that it is extremely hard to find a decent apartment in my price range, but she said if she were basically in similar circumstances, she would rather live in an attic and stay by the family. My sister has had hardships, but she also has her own home now.

I suggested that moving to Missouri simply because you don't like the way the landlord is maintaining your building is a mighty poor reason to move halfway across the country, leaving family and friends, familiar places and memories, behind. I said it made no sense to me. You replied:

Originally Posted by theresnoplacelikehome

I'm not sure if your statement makes any sense to me either, so we're even. Thank you.

Then I tried to explain to you some of the pitfalls of living alone in an unfamiliar place, and suggested that someone moving at age 50 will have a much more difficult time than someone moving at age 19 with her parents. For the sake of your safety and emotional health, I begged you to reconsider. You replied:

Originally Posted by theresnoplacelikehome

I love my daughter and family very much, but also would like to have a better structure to live in, even though that may sound superficial to a lot of people. Possibly I could even have my own house there. I'm very tired of apartment living and going to laundromats. I just do not make the kind of income I used to in my profession, but in this recession, it is forcing me [and probably a lot of other people] to take a look at other areas of the country.

Well, yes, it does sound superficial to me, but if getting out of your apartment and into a house so you can have a washer-dryer is more important to you than being near your daughter and sister, and if you think Missouri is the only place you can do that, then ignore everything I warned you about and move to Missouri.

I can see now that I made erroneous assumptions when I read your first post. I thought you wanted all kinds of information to help you make a decision. I see now that your mind is made up and you didn't want to hear any cautionary advice; you only wanted to hear people cheering your decision to move. Such cheering is plentiful on the Missouri Forum.

[Mollym313]

I don't think she has a problem with others suggestions and opinions but rather those that give them in a condescending, insulting, and arrogant manner.

[Silvermouse]

Originally Posted by Mollym313

I don't think she has a problem with others suggestions and opinions but rather those that give them in a condescending, insulting, and arrogant manner.

What? OB is plain spoken, it's true, but his post had some things in it she needs to consider. This is a big move.

[mcol]

Okay so my comment was misconstrued, maybe I worded it wrong
or something. This is the first time I've made someone upset, and
I am truly sorry.

What I meant by saying that - I know people who come out here
from the east coast and they don't like it here. They feel they cannot
relate to anyone here. They feel they have to talk down to people.
These people are highly educated professionals that do not feel
comfortable here.

Personally, I love it here and don't want to move. I have a college
degree and we are self employed successfully. We moved here not
having jobs or knowing a soul. I was just pointing out that moving
here is not right for everyone, and some of the complaints I have heard
in regards to this.

I would trust the locals here with my life. I find the locals to be
totally sincere. If I still have you upset, then you have a chip on
your shoulder bigger than I can get off.

YES we have plenty of professional people here, the thing is this
area doesn't pay much for wages in most jobs, so the highly
educated people either work here with their own business or tend
to move to the bigger cities. I have never posted in any forum
anything other than my satisfaction with living in this area. So
please don't make something out of nothing, I have family for
that - LOL!

[kshe95girl]

OB is just as plain spoken as many other Missourians I know, (including myself) its just the way we are.
I find it refreshing to be able to speak with someone without having to decipher what is really being said, behind blandishments and subterfuge. At least one knows where we stand!

[ozarksboy]

Originally Posted by Mollym313

I don't think she has a problem with others suggestions and opinions but rather those that give them in a condescending, insulting, and arrogant manner.

My post was bluntly to the point but not condescending, insulting or arrogant. I gave her some information and some points I thought she should consider. I then said that if she must move to Missouri, she should consider my own town, Rolla, because of the services available to seniors like her and me. Would I insult someone and then suggest they move to my own town? I don't fill my posts with little smilies; maybe I need to do that kind of girly thing to make the little girls feel better. (Now that was condescending!)

[kshe95girl]

Originally Posted by mcol

Okay so my comment was misconstrued, maybe I worded it wrong
or something. This is the first time I've made someone upset, and
I am truly sorry.

What I meant by saying that - I know people who come out here
from the east coast and they don't like it here. They feel they cannot
relate to anyone here. They feel they have to talk down to people.
These people are highly educated professionals that do not feel
comfortable here.

Personally, I love it here and don't want to move. I have a college
degree and we are self employed successfully. We moved here not
having jobs or knowing a soul. I was just pointing out that moving
here is not right for everyone, and some of the complaints I have heard
in regards to this.

I would trust the locals here with my life. I find the locals to be
totally sincere. If I still have you upset, then you have a chip on
your shoulder bigger than I can get off.

YES we have plenty of professional people here, the thing is this
area doesn't pay much for wages in most jobs, so the highly
educated people either work here with their own business or tend
to move to the bigger cities. I have never posted in any forum
anything other than my satisfaction with living in this area. So
please don't make something out of nothing, I have family for
that - LOL!

No offense taken on my part, and if the truth were to be told, we dont think much of those East Coast elitist types, either!

[kshe95girl]

Originally Posted by ozarksboy

My post was bluntly to the point but not condescending, insulting or arrogant. I gave her some information and some points I thought she should consider. I then said that if she must move to Missouri, she should consider my own town, Rolla. Would I insult someone and then suggest they move to my own town? I don't fill my posts with little smilies; maybe I need to do that kind of girly thing to make the little girls feel better. (Now that was condescending!)

LMAO, I think the smiley is embarrassed to be there, make it go away!!!!!

[Mollym313]

Originally Posted by Silvermouse

What? OB is plain spoken, it's true, but his post had some things in it she needs to consider. This is a big move.

I understand that, I have read his posts before and he has great ideas. It is just that some "good ideas" won't be taken seriously if there given in a certain manner.