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So I was studying Graphic Design in a trade school and I completed the course earlier this year. I am now in a Printing program to to learn more about the trade. It's in the same school that I took the Computer Graphics course.
Here's my problem. In the GD course, I dealt with alot of backstabbing idiots, all people I got along with initially and wanted to become friends with. It was 2 years ago when I started the Design course and when I started getting along with everyone there, I thought to myself that my life as a sad loner with no friends will finally be OVER!!!! I'm going to make friends and go out with them, party and meet their friends and maybe even get a girlfriend along the way! And I had just turned 18. Great timing for this to happen as I had just become a legal adult (here in Canada).
But this simple dream I had was too good to be true. A few months later, these people who I had wanted to be friends with start treating me like crap, disrespecting me, picking on me for ••••ed up lame high-school reasons. These people were like little kids with how they picked on me. I tried for the rest of the course to fix things with them and meet other people outside the course, with no success.
I just couldn't freakin believe it. I thought it was finally going to be over and get my simple dream social life. I just can't believe that 2 years later I'm back where I started, feeling even worse because of what happened, especially one EXTREME EFFED UP IDIOT S.O.B. who seriously got on my last nerve. I still think of him today would and just adore murdering him.
So anyway, now I'm in the Printing course and getting along with these new people I met there. Hope things work out better with them. I really want them to replace the old guys I have in my head from the last course. Everytime I enter the school I think of the old group/program I was in and it hurts me really bad. I want to think of the new course and new people and try not to think of those backstabbers.
I'm 20 years and I am seriously fed up of this nonsense. You guys who have been socializing for a long time may find this sounds weird, but a social life with people in or around my age group is a dream for me. Do you guys have any advice or tips on how we can become friends a little faster? Maybe just in time for the holidays so I can get invited to a Christmas or New Years Eve party?
Forget about the past and don't carry around negative feelings, it gives off a bad vibe.
Be a good listener.
I know this isn't what you want to hear...Getting caught up in backstabbing means you chose the wrong people to confide in or entertained it in someway.
Well for starters saying something like "I still think of him today and just adore murdering him." doesnt scream hey befriend this lad. Anyway, my only suggestions is that you dont take things so serious. Try to have fun with this new group of classmates (notice i didnt say friends) and see how it turns out.
Forget about the past and don't carry around negative feelings, it gives off a bad vibe.
Be a good listener.
I know this isn't what you want to hear...Getting caught up in backstabbing means you chose the wrong people to confide in or entertained it in someway.
What you mean by entertained it in? What does that mean??
What you mean by entertained it in? What does that mean??
Contributing to, or starting converstions about others that can get twisted and retold in a way that makes you look like the bad guy.
I wouldn't limit friendships to school...In order to make friends you have to put yourself out there. Some people click right away but freindships develop over time. I'm sure you must have some interests. Sports teams, book clubs, working out.
The forum literally has a hundred topics you can post in. Its a good way to discuss topics of interest or state and build your skills in conversation. When you have something to talk about and share other people will listen.
Being a good friend doesn't mean you let people walk all over you either, have some boundaries.
I read your post in W&E..do you see how you left yourself wide open there...don't be so trusting.
It sounds like you are placing too much value in having friends and in not being a loner, as if this is your way of measuring your self-worth.
You are going to have a lot of passing acquaintances in the long life ahead of you, but you are always going to have yourself. So I would suggest you be happy with yourself and enjoy people when they are a part of your life and let go of them when they no longer want to be a part of your life.
You can't force friendships. If they don't invite you to their parties...no big deal. Find something else you enjoy doing.
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