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Just avoid her, literally. Don't ever go to her house or be home when she visits yours. Ignore her texts and calls. If you're out of sight, she's not going to say anything to your wife.
Can't really do that. I do yardwork one day a week for the family. Plus, Easter is coming up, it would look weird if we avoided them. I think it's best to just avoid her. Then again, at this point I am wondering if that will just make things worse.
Can't really do that. I do yardwork one day a week for the family. Plus, Easter is coming up, it would look weird if we avoided them.
I didn't mean for you and your wife avoid her, I meant just you avoid her. During holidays there are other people around so it's okay to be around her. Just don't be alone with her ever.
Can you do the yardwork and not go inside her home? Maybe you might want to consider hiring a gardener for her if this is a real concern.
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I think it's best to just avoid her. Then again, at this point I am wondering if that will just make things worse.
Does this lady seem like the type that if you just confronted her about it that she would just act stupid and deny everything. That's it's all in my head? At this point I am so frustrated that I just want to tell her off, or make it obvious I do not want to speak to her when I avoid her. Just to put a sudden end to this nonsense.
Does this lady seem like the type that if you just confronted her about it that she would just act stupid and deny everything. That's it's all in my head? At this point I am so frustrated that I just want to tell her off, or make it obvious I do not want to speak to her when I avoid her. Just to put a sudden end to this nonsense.
OMG, why are you still agonizing over this and trying to figure out this woman? Ignore her, avoid her, make sure your wife knows what's going on. Period.
Why? Doesn't your wife know EVERYTHING? Are there other family members, from your wife's family, who will be present? If so, do they all know what you go through? How about spending Easter with your relatives, instead of your wife's. Do your relatives have any idea what you go though? If so, what advice do they give? If not, what advice would they give, if they knew? The bottom line is, YOU have a moral responsibility to get your MIL some help. That is, if you care about you and your family. Whether that means reporting EVERYTHING to your wife, your FIL, your wife's other family members, or your family members, everyone has to be on board; not just C-D. If EVERYBODY doesn't know about this, (1) you're fake, and (2) you're the REAL ringmaster in all of this. And, at that point, the question YOU have to face is... WHY?... e.g. low self-esteem, fear, lying,...
No more assertions. She's said she's been connecting with her husband and has a good time with him last week. She hasn't been following me and we've not been talking all that much. So the problem has been pretty much resolved itself.
She's said she's been connecting with her husband and has a good time with him last week. She hasn't been following me and we've not been talking all that much. So the problem has been pretty much resolved itself.
Bwahahaa. You just proved AGAIN how clueless you are. The problem has not resolved itself. Your mil is still converting oxygen into carbon dioxide, right? So the problem still exists. This is just another lull. You know, like the LAST ONE where you said that everything was all better. Why are you bothering to post here? You aren't listening to anything anyone is saying. Sheesh.
Dang rider girl, you seem to have a cynical opinion of the matter. I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. I mean she told me that she had a connection with her husband while working together in the garden. That sounds like something legit. Why would she just tell me that? It was confirmed by the hubby too.
At least explain to me how that's a lull before you call me clueless, plz.
Dang rider girl, you seem to have a cynical opinion of the matter. I was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. I mean she told me that she had a connection with her husband while working together in the garden. That sounds like something legit. Why would she just tell me that? It was confirmed by the hubby too.
At least explain to me how that's a lull before you call me clueless, plz.
Because you've already established that she is a lech. You told us that she already has a reputation for being a less-than-stellar moral human being. She came onto you. She's repeatedly crossed all kinds of lines with you. This is who she is. The fact that she had ONE good encounter with her husband does not mean she's "cured' of being a lech. Do not give a skank like her the benefit of the doubt. Again, she has already PROVEN to you that she doesn't understand appropriate boundaries. No benefit of the doubt should be due her. Stop being so naive.
ETA: this is a "lull" because as soon as she has another little issue with her husband, she'll come crying to you again. She's a drama queen to boot. (And remember -- we've already stated repeatedly that you should NOT be her confidante in any of her marital dealings, and you should stay as far away from her as possible.)
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