Friends who only contact you on the weekend? (brother, person, feel)
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People are often busy working during the week. I don't find it that unusual. In fact, some people would love it if their friends communicated with them once a week regardless of when it is.
Now if it is lack of notice they give you that you are more concerned about, you can request they try to give you a days notice or be flexible if they ask you out Friday and you say Saturday evening or Sunday afternoon are better, because I made plans tonight. That is easily manageable IMO. Basic communication skills. Good luck.
I also dont like when people ignore you all week and then all of a sudden act all freindly and then want to go out. I think thats a bunch of lame excuses about "im so busy".. well the "busy" person COULD have kept in contact for a quick hi at least during the week.
I'd feel like its a one-sided freindship and I wouldn't want to be their freind if this bugs me. looks like the OP doesn't like this kind of relating, so if i were her, I'd not have freindships like this - drive bys type.
My weeks are typically long scrambles from Monday morning to Friday afternoons. If your friends are busy professionals, their lives are probably the same way.
They don't contact you all week or check in with you. But as soon as Friday afternoon hits they send you a text stating:
"Hey, what are you doing this tonight?"
What gives?? Seriously? I'm not your weekend "booty call".
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Hey be happy they contact you. All my buddies are in some god forsaken place getting or were getting shot at. We maybe speak once every 4-6 weeks but we do email each other. Its basic stuff and a lot of can you send us this that and the other. I gladly make care packages for them. I wish they could call me on the weekend and ask to get together. That would mean they are here and not there. So look on the bright side.
Yeah, most people are pretty busy during the week. I know I don't do much especially the first part of the week, On Mondays, I just come home and collapse and don't do anything... that's pretty much my lazy guilt free don't do anything day....
Just make it to work and back. I imagine others might have something similar.
When we do go out during the week, it seems to be errands and the like...
Probably should look into doing more fun stuff during the work week instead of waiting for the weekend.....
I wouldn't let this bother me to in-depthly about them only contacting you on the weekends. Do you know each of your friends' reasons for this? The ONLY excuse I see is if they worked graveyard shifts at least 1/2 of the week, were doctors who were on call at least 4 days a week, or who are juggling work & raising kids. Something like that is understandable because those are different from the norm schedules.
Other than that, ytou're right in a way OP. I don't think anyone is that busy to where they can't send a quick text at the least or call & talk for 5-7 minutes during the week.
I also dont like when people ignore you all week and then all of a sudden act all freindly and then want to go out. I think thats a bunch of lame excuses about "im so busy".. well the "busy" person COULD have kept in contact for a quick hi at least during the week.
I'd feel like its a one-sided freindship and I wouldn't want to be their freind if this bugs me. looks like the OP doesn't like this kind of relating, so if i were her, I'd not have freindships like this - drive bys type.
This sounds awfully high maintenance, and who need friends like that? You're not being ignored all week, because it's not all about you! People have their own lives and responsibilities. Maybe you're not busy, but that doesn't mean they aren't, and that they're just making up excuses. I don't contact every friend I have on a weekly basis, just to make idle small talk. Your friends contact you to get together on weekends. I don't see what your issue is.
There comes a point in life where people work fulltime, have kids and all the duties and responsibilities that come with that. Or maybe they have sick or elderly relatives they care for. Or they have their own hobbies or volunteer work. Friendships are valuable, and none of my friendships suffer simply because I don't talk to all of them on a weekly basis.
I have more free time during the week, and weekends are relegated to family. So weekends are when I barely talk to friends. And the going out thing? Yeah, that just doesn't happen on a regular basis because of family stuff. But I am in a different life phase than you are.
Sounds like maybe what you are wanting are friends that are not just "let's hang out" type of friends, but people that make you a priority, because that is a deeper level of friendship. They are thinking about you during the week and are wanting to connect with you on another level. They are acknowledging that you are important to them. Am I reading that right?
Or maybe I am just projecting. I have friends that I only talk to every now and then and see every now and then. And then I have friends that are much more to me than that, and i am more to them. When one of THOSE friends falls out of the loop I definitely notice it and feel it. And get a little more high maintenance after awhile bcs of the unspoken "rules" that have already been established in our friendship.
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