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If you can afford it, I would just get a hotel room & rent a car. Or look into shuttles to/from the airport & hotel Then you don't have to depend upon him. And if that means you can't afford to spend as much on a gift for them, so be it. You have to do what's right and comfortable for you.
And if he requests a favor in the future, you don't have to feel obligated to accommodate him. It's not fair, but in both families and friendships, there are some who mostly take while others mostly give. It's unlikely you will change them, so eventually we just have to learn to put ourselves first and do only what we feel comfortable with for others.
If you can afford it, I would just get a hotel room & rent a car. Or look into shuttles to/from the airport & hotel Then you don't have to depend upon him. And if that means you can't afford to spend as much on a gift for them, so be it. You have to do what's right and comfortable for you.
And if he requests a favor in the future, you don't have to feel obligated to accommodate him. It's not fair, but in both families and friendships, there are some who mostly take while others mostly give. It's unlikely you will change them, so eventually we just have to learn to put ourselves first and do only what we feel comfortable with for others.
I agree with you, there are some that mostly give and some that mostly take. I guess that is part of what I'm questioning here...I seem to always be the one that gives. I'm starting to think it has to be me. I'm not one to put myself first, but I'm going to try to do that from now on.
And yes, we're getting a car and hotel separate...I don't want to deal with them anymore.
Good for you on getting the hotel and car. I would figure out in advance if you're willing to give other people a lift and if not, come up with a reply. I wouldn't be surprised if after they refused to help you they'll expect you to help them out by ferrying people from the hotel, etc. You could make plans for sightseeing which wouldn't permit it.
It's not you, it's them. People just don't care about others anymore, whether it's family or a friend. People nowdays have become shallow, envious, greedy and disrespectful. They'll be in your life for as long as it's convinient for them. They lie, cheat and steal with not a guilty thought in mind. However, there are good people outhere and I hope you find them.
It's not you, it's them. People just don't care about others anymore, whether it's family or a friend. People nowdays have become shallow, envious, greedy and disrespectful. They'll be in your life for as long as it's convinient for them. They lie, cheat and steal with not a guilty thought in mind. However, there are good people outhere and I hope you find them.
You think so? I think so too, but I don't want to...if you get what I mean. I hate to think that people have really become this way.
Good for you on getting the hotel and car. I would figure out in advance if you're willing to give other people a lift and if not, come up with a reply. I wouldn't be surprised if after they refused to help you they'll expect you to help them out by ferrying people from the hotel, etc. You could make plans for sightseeing which wouldn't permit it.
You make a good point. I already know what I will do
You make a good point. I already know what I will do
WHAT??? What will you do? I must know!! I thought that was a good idea as well. I know it's not in your nature to be stingy or selfish but hey, you should enjoy this time as much as anyone. So, what are your plans?
WHAT??? What will you do? I must know!! I thought that was a good idea as well. I know it's not in your nature to be stingy or selfish but hey, you should enjoy this time as much as anyone. So, what are your plans?
you know my sister is like this too Op so I have figured out to do things for myself and not ask anybody for a ride anymore to anywhere because they are A.) too busy B.) they just dont answer when I leave a voice mail and that is fine but just remember to be the same way when they call and need something . this is the age of social media and talking on fb and not on the phone or in person .
WHAT??? What will you do? I must know!! I thought that was a good idea as well. I know it's not in your nature to be stingy or selfish but hey, you should enjoy this time as much as anyone. So, what are your plans?
I know it's not in my nature, but my GF and I are coupling a vacation with the wedding, so at this point the wedding is just something we are going to do in the middle of the vacation. I'm going to tell my brother that I can't because we have other plans and our schedule is tight. I doubt he will ask, but at this point I am going to put our vacation, time with my GF and my stress level first.
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I thought that was a good idea as well. I know it's not in your nature to be stingy or selfish but hey, you should enjoy this time as much as anyone. So, what are your plans? 
