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Do you believe that most people who are treated very badly by others are at least partially at fault? That seldom, people will just treat others badly for no reason whatsoever.
One of my sisters is going through a terrible child custody situation in the courts. She is always telling anyone who will listen how terrible her ex husband is treating her and how terribly abusive he is, etc, etc.
One of my brother in laws had the courage to ask the obvious question: "Are you completely without fault or blame in this situation" In other words he would not believe that there are two sides to the situation and it is unlikely that the ex husband is totally evil and cruel.
Have you ever been treated partially poorly by someone and did absolutely nothing wrong?
Do you believe that most people who are treated very badly by others are at least partially at fault? That seldom, people will just treat others badly for no reason whatsoever.
One of my sisters is going through a terrible child custody situation in the courts. She is always telling anyone who will listen how terrible her ex husband is treating her and how terribly abusive he is, etc, etc.
One of my brother in laws had the courage to ask the obvious question: "Are you completely without fault or blame in this situation" In other words he would not believe that there are two sides to the situation and it is unlikely that the ex husband is totally evil and cruel.
Have you ever been treated partially poorly by someone and did absolutely nothing wrong?
Sure I have! I think everyone in this world has had an experience with another person's misdirected anger.
Sure I have......most people I KNOW have. There really are some terrible, mean people out there. One of the things that I try to do though, is bite the bit, when someone starts telling me about horrible, horrible things that were done to them, and vehemently deny that they did ANYTHING at fault. I generally, if at all possible, try to get both sides of the story before I make any hasty judgements or open my mouth. I know that might make me look nosey, but it's best to play it safe. Unfortunately, I have also seen many cases where the one who is playing the "victim", is actually the perpetrator.
You are only getting one side of the story....but again, there really are some controlling, evil people out there. All it takes for some people to lash out.....is for them to see someone who is "happier" than them.... they just HAVE to try to burst that bubble and make the other person miserable! LOL
Unfortunately we occasionally run across people with anger problems. I just try to diffuse and detach. those folks are walking grenades and I dont like to be around when they go off.
It is a lie. Human beings have a history of treating others like trash for no reason. IE: Black Slavery, Black Segregation, Nazi Holocaust, Homophobia, Pol Pot's Year Zero, etc.
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Originally Posted by Stranded and Lonely
Do you believe that most people who are treated very badly by others are at least partially at fault? That seldom, people will just treat others badly for no reason whatsoever.
One of my sisters is going through a terrible child custody situation in the courts. She is always telling anyone who will listen how terrible her ex husband is treating her and how terribly abusive he is, etc, etc.
One of my brother in laws had the courage to ask the obvious question: "Are you completely without fault or blame in this situation" In other words he would not believe that there are two sides to the situation and it is unlikely that the ex husband is totally evil and cruel.
Have you ever been treated partially poorly by someone and did absolutely nothing wrong?
There are people with anger problems that hide it very well. They are passive aggressive. They are walking around looking for a "grenade" to set off. That means they provoke and irritate another until that person gets fuming and furious. There are a lot of passive aggressive women and men out there. The one who raises his voice and gets angry is the one who everyone likes to scapegoat and point fingers at.
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Originally Posted by Oildog
Unfortunately we occasionally run across people with anger problems. I just try to diffuse and detach. those folks are walking grenades and I dont like to be around when they go off.
Do you believe that most people who are treated very badly by others are at least partially at fault? That seldom, people will just treat others badly for no reason whatsoever.
One of my sisters is going through a terrible child custody situation in the courts. She is always telling anyone who will listen how terrible her ex husband is treating her and how terribly abusive he is, etc, etc.
One of my brother in laws had the courage to ask the obvious question: "Are you completely without fault or blame in this situation" In other words he would not believe that there are two sides to the situation and it is unlikely that the ex husband is totally evil and cruel.
Have you ever been treated partially poorly by someone and did absolutely nothing wrong?
More times than I care to count. Aside from my personal experiences, I have seen it happen often. It is not so uncommon, not so "seldom".
It takes real internal fortitude to not give in temptation, that includes being cruel and hurtful to others.
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