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It's good that you're taking steps to get yourself out of that hellhole, OP. It might take a few years until you can finally move out, but enrolling into a college is a HUGE step. They can take your money and your possessions, but they can NEVER take away your education. Education is something which lasts forever
Also, don't think that you're old. You're 28. What's the average lifespan in America? 78 years. You still have an entire 50 years to live! 50 years to get a stable job, 50 years to find love, 50 years to go to the places you always dreamed of visiting.
There's nothing wrong with "doing what you want to do" with your own money which you have earned by your own labor, Trell. Nor are you "going behind your mother's back" to make use of your own money, nor are you "defying her" - these are her perceptions, and appear to have nothing to do with reality.
That reality is that it is your money, not hers, and that it was earned by your labor, not hers, and it's your business what you do with it, not hers. You are an adult- but even if you were a 14 year old with a paper route, it would still be your money and your labor and your decision.
So get out as soon as you can, and meanwhile, give your mother about 25% of your paycheck for your room and board, as I previously suggested. After you're out, there's no need to give her any money.
Is her desperation to get her hands on your money just a control issue, or does she an addict who is using and needs the money for booze or drugs?
I am from where you are living so I know how bad the economy is. Here are a few suggestions.
*Mackinaw Island usually starts hiring for the summer around this time. You live on the island and can continue to do so during the winter months. Basically everyone gets a room, dorm room style but its a roof over head. I had a friend that worked there for a few years. It solved his issue with needing a place to live, having a job and not owning a car.
*There are some jobs where someone needs a full time sitter for the elderly. You get a room and its a job.
*Apartment complexes look for on site maintenance people that get drastically reduced rent as long as they can do some handyman type fixes.
*Lastly, and maybe not the best financial way but if I were in your shoes. I would apply for school loans, attend college and use part of the loan money to get a small place. You probably would qualify for a pell grant as well. Once you are free you will feel better about yourself and grow.
Sorry buddy. I don't DO loans. Ive seen the damage they do.
You're smart not to get into debt.
Your work ethic is going to get you through all this. Once you get into some other place, things will become better for you. Living with emotional abuse only brings you down. Since your mom takes your money anyway, paying rent to live somewhere else might not be so hard.
A lot of people have started out with no car and not too much but you also aren't in debt so you're not in red ink. To escape the drama, a homeless shelter or low rent room might be the quick way out and then you can go up from there. The main thing is just to get your things and get out of there and then your mind will clear.
As a low-skilled minimum-wage employee he won't find a full-time gig with benefits, and thanks to 0bamacare companies are capping part-timers at 25 hours per week to avoid paying for health insurance.
UPDATE: She started in on me again last night. This occurred because she was on the phone, and i did not say anything. I just went in my room. Later she came in and satarted screaming i didnt speak to her, telling me to get off my laptop, then she went on and on about how i'm ungrateful and ornery and how i need to humble myself to her and it just escalated from there.
She said i had balll, and that she will snip them off. She said im not a man until she says i am and that i am LESS THAN **** until she says i am. Then she want as far as threateneing my life by saying sh would put her .38 caliber pistol on me. This time i didn't even say anything, and just sat there and let her run her goddamn mouth. She is telling me to shut the **** up, she will not listen to what i have to say, and she went on saying She does not like me sitting there. She says that i will give her my paycheck and if not get the **** out.
This was unprovoked. I do my best to avoid her and it still dosent work.
I am from where you are living so I know how bad the economy is. Here are a few suggestions.
*Mackinaw Island usually starts hiring for the summer around this time. You live on the island and can continue to do so during the winter months. Basically everyone gets a room, dorm room style but its a roof over head. I had a friend that worked there for a few years. It solved his issue with needing a place to live, having a job and not owning a car.
*There are some jobs where someone needs a full time sitter for the elderly. You get a room and its a job.
*Apartment complexes look for on site maintenance people that get drastically reduced rent as long as they can do some handyman type fixes.
*Lastly, and maybe not the best financial way but if I were in your shoes. I would apply for school loans, attend college and use part of the loan money to get a small place. You probably would qualify for a pell grant as well. Once you are free you will feel better about yourself and grow.
Your work ethic is going to get you through all this. Once you get into some other place, things will become better for you. Living with emotional abuse only brings you down. Since your mom takes your money anyway, paying rent to live somewhere else might not be so hard.
A lot of people have started out with no car and not too much but you also aren't in debt so you're not in red ink. To escape the drama, a homeless shelter or low rent room might be the quick way out and then you can go up from there. The main thing is just to get your things and get out of there and then your mind will clear.
Yea, im going to ask my employer whether i can transfer to another state. I understand there's crime everywhere, but Detroit is just too violent for me, so i cannot live within city limits for fear of my life.
Yea, im going to ask my employer whether i can transfer to another state. I understand there's crime everywhere, but Detroit is just too violent for me, so i cannot live within city limits for fear of my life.
If your mother is threatening you with a 38, sounds like your own house might be too violent for you
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