Friends that drink (member, alcoholic, house, abuse)
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I am having a hard time dealing with friends that drink. It is very rare for me to drink and I am uncomfortable around a lot of drinking. I try to remember that it is a disease but it is hard to deal with the reality that a few of my friends are alcoholics. I have stopped dealing with one of them because of alcohol related behavior.
Yesterday a friend showed up at my house to go for a routine walk we do most nights. She was not sober and drove over. She could not walk straight and I said something to her about drinking and driving. I was very calm. I reminded her that we had a discussion once before and I told her I would call her on drinking and driving if I saw that kind of behavior.
Today I was her punching bag. It wasn't what she said but the energy behind it that hurt.
This. You either cut ties with the drunks and develop healthier friendships, or, if you find yourself unable to do that, go to Al-Anon.
Me? I preferred to eliminate drunks from my life.
That pretty much sums it up. I learned that lesson myself.
I think people tolerate alcohol abuse more because alcohol is legal. People are more likely to kick a crack head or a meth addict to the curb, but alcohol destroys lives and families all the time. I don't see much of a difference anymore.
I have no problem setting boundaries. And keeping them.
I wasn't asking for advice. I was expressing my sadness over seeing another friend in such a state.
I have known her for 13 years and she just started drinking about a year ago. She drank mostly at night when I wasn't around her. But she has just recently started drinking earlier.
I do not tolerate alcohol abuse at all when it interfere with my life. Which means I will have to end this relationship as I did the last one. I am not willing to have alcohol be a part of my life.
I wasn't asking for advice. I was expressing my sadness over seeing another friend in such a state.
Well, then. I'm sorry for both you and your friend. Hope she sobers up sooner rather than later and good on you for making sure she was OK to drive home.
at first I thought you were being super uptight and judgemental
but it sounds like your friend really legitimately has a problem
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