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Sure you can. If the person is a work bully, you can always find another job and quit. It's a free country. You don't have to stay in a hostile working environment.
Ok, but bullies are everywhere. To quit every job just because a bully is there, is only hurting yourself. I do agree that in some cases it's best to just leave. But I don't think that's always the solution.
But you can't always walk away. Sometimes the arrogant person or bully is at work, or in your family - someone you have to deal with on a regular basis. You can't walk away from everything.
You can emotionally walk away, not react or respond and disengage as soon as possible. Been there and done that. Trying to appease a bully just earns contempt and trying to outdo them is giving them a reaction.
Some places have them way more than others. Some don’t have any, others have far too many. Banking has the most. Lol!
There are also quite a few teachers and nurses who are bullies. Not always on the job though, sometimes more with family and friends who they want to control and/or flaunt their superiority.
If someone's bullying you at work, there's laws and procedures so use them.
Get a notebook and write everything down, time date what was said.
Yeah, except sometimes that bites you in the behind.
At my last job, four of us wrote a complaint about a person we worked with, and we were written up, accused of things we didn't do, and terminated one-by-one. We followed corporate "procedure". The bully was not dealt with, and our lives were made a living h***.
When I'm confronted with a bully or an aggressive personality, my first instinct is to deal with them in a sympathetic and understanding way, because I know that underneath the nastiness they are just hurt, damaged people who don't know any other way to relate.
But.
Sometimes this approach really doesn't work. Why? Because some bullies ONLY respect arrogance and power. They see the world as "who is up, and who is down" and approaching them in a kind, understanding manner causes them to interpret your approach as "weak". When, of course, you're not being weak at all - you're trying to get to the core of the issue. But that doesn't matter to an arrogant person. They'll just take it as an opportunity to take advantage of someone "foolish" enough to make themselves vulnerable. ...
I agree with you. I've said this for years. Bullies interpret kindness as "weak". They can't see it any other way.
They look for people they can prey on. That is their world view. We can't change it, but we can look for red flags so we can avoid bullies and shun them.
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