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My good friend recently moved to the city I live in for a man that since her arrival has nothing to do with her. She is pretty but can't keep friends -except me and that is because I let her complain about everything without bothering me too much. She is 43 years old and I am embarrassed for her and am at the point I can't be around her...the reason being that her clothes are entirely too skimpy for her age. She wears the shortest shorts and tight tank tops in which displays her 43 year old breasts. It's not like she has a great figure either. Not nearly as good and my figure and I always keep it classy and age appropriate One day she walked around in her bikini top in a restaurant and around town - ugh. People stare at her and I can't tell it isn't in a good way!
I am so uncomfortable and embarrassed for her and to be with her. My family is shocked too! She sits with her legs drawn into her chest showing her big cellulite trunk legs and butt without a care in the world. My six year old is uncomfortable too.
Do I say something to her? As a friend? I am inclined not to because things never turn out well in situations like this. BUT she is always complaining why she doesn't have a boyfriend! I think geesh you never will at this rate.
My other friend has an amazing figure (implants) and looks like a barbie doll. She wears tight shirts (can't help being tight due to her enormous breast) but conservative otherwise.
Do I say something or bite my tongue? Is it fair to her? Me?
So weird she does that?
Anyone have suggestions? Thoughts? Insight?
I would talk to her. I would tell her this is not easy for you to talk about and you do not want to upset her but she needs to dress more age appropriate and not so scantily. Tell her that you see people giving her stares that are not good and that you think she would have a better chance finding a man by not dressing this way. I figure, what is the worse that can happen? Probably that she won't want to be your friend anymore. Is that a big deal to you, or could your friendship with her end and that would be ok?
I've had associations like these and I let them die out from my suddenly really busy schedule. She needs to buy a dog, name it Clue, then she'll have one.
I've had associations like these and I let them die out from my suddenly really busy schedule. She needs to buy a dog, name it Clue, then she'll have one.
Oh! ..and when the dog gets sick of her and runs away she will be....
My good friend recently moved to the city I live in for a man that since her arrival has nothing to do with her. She is pretty but can't keep friends -except me and that is because I let her complain about everything without bothering me too much. She is 43 years old and I am embarrassed for her and am at the point I can't be around her...the reason being that her clothes are entirely too skimpy for her age. She wears the shortest shorts and tight tank tops in which displays her 43 year old breasts. It's not like she has a great figure either. Not nearly as good and my figure and I always keep it classy and age appropriate One day she walked around in her bikini top in a restaurant and around town - ugh. People stare at her and I can't tell it isn't in a good way!
I am so uncomfortable and embarrassed for her and to be with her. My family is shocked too! She sits with her legs drawn into her chest showing her big cellulite trunk legs and butt without a care in the world. My six year old is uncomfortable too.
Do I say something to her? As a friend? I am inclined not to because things never turn out well in situations like this. BUT she is always complaining why she doesn't have a boyfriend! I think geesh you never will at this rate.
My other friend has an amazing figure (implants) and looks like a barbie doll. She wears tight shirts (can't help being tight due to her enormous breast) but conservative otherwise.
Do I say something or bite my tongue? Is it fair to her? Me?
So weird she does that?
Anyone have suggestions? Thoughts? Insight?
I think your friend is pining for her youth. Maybe in a little bit of denial that is has passed. The way you describe that she sits, knees drawn to her chest, is kind of like a teenager. Not really a problem if she was covered up in jeans and a decent top. Bottom line, you're her friend. You're going to have to lead by example. Talk to her and get her to listen. You're her friend, you should know how to do this..start out by getting her more hopeful about dating, then lead in with discussions about clothes, have her come over when you're getting ready to go out, or the two of you plan to go out from your place and and both dress to go out there. Talk to her about what you like in clothes, different clothing lines, what you like about what you choose in fashions. Help her understand that the way an older woman dresses can be a BIG plus or minus for her in the dating pool. You can do it, help her develop an age appropriate style so she will project self acceptance and self respect instead of foolish desperation. Good luck.
My good friend recently moved to the city I live in for a man that since her arrival has nothing to do with her. She is pretty but can't keep friends -except me and that is because I let her complain about everything without bothering me too much. She is 43 years old and I am embarrassed for her and am at the point I can't be around her...the reason being that her clothes are entirely too skimpy for her age. She wears the shortest shorts and tight tank tops in which displays her 43 year old breasts. It's not like she has a great figure either. Not nearly as good and my figure and I always keep it classy and age appropriate One day she walked around in her bikini top in a restaurant and around town - ugh. People stare at her and I can't tell it isn't in a good way!
I am so uncomfortable and embarrassed for her and to be with her. My family is shocked too! She sits with her legs drawn into her chest showing her big cellulite trunk legs and butt without a care in the world. My six year old is uncomfortable too.
Do I say something to her? As a friend? I am inclined not to because things never turn out well in situations like this. BUT she is always complaining why she doesn't have a boyfriend! I think geesh you never will at this rate.
My other friend has an amazing figure (implants) and looks like a barbie doll. She wears tight shirts (can't help being tight due to her enormous breast) but conservative otherwise.
Do I say something or bite my tongue? Is it fair to her? Me?
So weird she does that?
Anyone have suggestions? Thoughts? Insight?
Some people are unable to change. And finding out that they have a problem would only upset them. (My grandma was an example, she didn't understand why we were all "against her" when we mentioned her flaw to her. All it brought was tears and her thinking that we are mistreating her, but ZERO understanding.)
So it could go 50/50 (you telling her). She may or not may accept it in the spirit you're telling her. I guess you would have to judge it for yourself: does she usually understand things you tell her, does she change or adapt in any other area? If no, then this most likely won't be happening here either.
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