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Oh wow, yep! In fact, I just went through this on Friday, after having a long talk with a relative, that refused to go with me so I could have surgery. The only thing holding them back was that they were in class, but they could have easily went with me and they are the only family I had. My best friend ended up having to go with me because they would not do the surgery unless I had a ride home. After several hours, I realized that they would never apologize and so things will continue as they are.
Why should they apologize? They were unavailable to spend the day at the hospital with you and told you so. I wasn't available either. Do you need me to apologize?
I was just wondering if anyone else has gone through this . I have a few friends and some relatives who refuse to apologize for anything wrong they do and Im tired of it . I have all but cut them out of my life but for obvious reasons have to keep on good terms with family members . I just hate the fact that they never apologize it drives me nuts . How about the rest of you ?
It doesn't drive me nuts like it does you, just makes me really sad that otherwise intelligent people waste so much time - like we've got forever or something
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For me, it doesn't matter so much when people refuse to apologize-- this has happened to me so much that I've been desensitized to it. Some may say I'm a bit jaded
What does throw me for a loop is when people try to re-write history to erase any wrongdoing they did when you know they know they're wrong. Bonus points when they try to throw manipulation in there to try to make you the one who owes the apology. That makes me all kinds of crazy
Oh wow, yep! In fact, I just went through this on Friday, after having a long talk with a relative, that refused to go with me so I could have surgery. The only thing holding them back was that they were in class, but they could have easily went with me and they are the only family I had. My best friend ended up having to go with me because they would not do the surgery unless I had a ride home. After several hours, I realized that they would never apologize and so things will continue as they are.
But why would your relative need to apologize? You asked for something. S/he had a previous commitment (even if you don't think attending class is important, it is to them). So you were told no. That's not a crime. Personally, if I were in your position I would rather have my friend with me than a relative, but you're entitled to your opinion on that. Just as your relative is entitled to say, "I'm not available to take you." If your relative had said, "Yes, I'll take you," and then just failed to show up at the appointed time, THAT would deserve an apology. But not the way you're telling the story.
Why should they apologize? They were unavailable to spend the day at the hospital with you and told you so. I wasn't available either. Do you need me to apologize?
wow, really? why should they apologize? This is the ONLY relative that I have that is in my immediate family and saying that you can't go with me to have surgery just because you don't want to miss ONE class which could be made up, yeah that's an issue.. They didn't even have to spend the whole day, just a few hours and that was it. I don't have anyone else to depend on and personally my chiropractor shouldn't have to shut down his business for the day to go with me because my relative wouldn't(he offered). Obviously, you have never been in pain, otherwise you wouldn't have said this.
wow, really? why should they apologize? This is the ONLY relative that I have that is in my immediate family and saying that you can't go with me to have surgery just because you don't want to miss ONE class which could be made up, yeah that's an issue.. They didn't even have to spend the whole day, just a few hours and that was it. I don't have anyone else to depend on and personally my chiropractor shouldn't have to shut down his business for the day to go with me because my relative wouldn't(he offered). Obviously, you have never been in pain, otherwise you wouldn't have said this.
Except, you DID have someone else to depend on. God I hate whiners. Everyone has pain, problems and complications, yours do not trump anyone else's.
But why would your relative need to apologize? You asked for something. S/he had a previous commitment (even if you don't think attending class is important, it is to them). So you were told no. That's not a crime. Personally, if I were in your position I would rather have my friend with me than a relative, but you're entitled to your opinion on that. Just as your relative is entitled to say, "I'm not available to take you." If your relative had said, "Yes, I'll take you," and then just failed to show up at the appointed time, THAT would deserve an apology. But not the way you're telling the story.
I guess that I would have to go back and rehash all of that(its in a previous post), more people were supportive than they are here. I suffered for a very debilitating condition where it was hard for me to get around. Walking hurt, bending hurt, standing hurt..just about everything, but sitting(until I got up) I was in pain EVERY SINGLE DAY. Now, this relative wanted me to take off a whole entire week from work, not only would I have missed those day,s but the loss of salary just would not make up for it. I would have been enormously behind. I worked in a job where I could sit down so going to work was not such a big deal, but I couldn't go 5 days, and you can't compare 5 days where I make 160 dollars a day to one day of college. Basically, I was in pain for almost 3 yrs and the surgery would have fixed all of that. I mean why would someone let a relative suffer? Family is supposed to be there for you. I shouldn't have to depend on friends and my own chiropractor to take me to the hosptial
Except, you DID have someone else to depend on. God I hate whiners. Everyone has pain, problems and complications, yours do not trump anyone else's.
I also hate negative nancy's and mean spirited people. well I guess we agree on something there...and no i wasn't 100% sure I had someone, my friend works alot and I GOT LUCKY. Normally he is not available, by the grace of god he was, but i didn't know he was going to be available until a few days before..and I never said my pain triumphed anyone elses. The only person that was in pain in this story is me! Dang lady, you need some reading comprehension lessions. All I can say, is that I hope you are single, because nobody deserves to be around a mean spirited person such as yourself.
When I needed surgery, I scheduled it after first making certain somebody was available to take me. If you did the opposite, then the onus is on you, not your relative. No apology necessary for being otherwise unavailable.
That's the type of demanded apology that makes no sense to me. I believe that if a relative or close friend could be there for me, they would. Therefore, if they can't, I trust they have a good reason.
Get over yourself. Everyone has problems. No one owes you ****.
Noone ever said that they were owed anything, you know if you don't like this thread so much, then why are you here?
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God I hate whiners. Everyone has pain, problems and complications, yours do not trump anyone else's.
