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Originally Posted by elhelmete
Someone who is deemed "quiet" too often gets tagged with negative connotations. It's very unfair and mostly inaccurate. Not everyone is walking around with Aspergers or SAD. A quiet demeanor can often be temporary and/or situational.
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You're missing the point. EVERYONE gets tagged in some situations with negative connotations. You just know your situation and you know how you feel you're being treated.
You don't know about the drunk guy who thinks he has to be that way to be the life of the party or people won't want him back because he's boring sober.
Or the girl who can't quite keep up with the intellectual conversation and is constantly worried that people are judging her because her degree is in fashion.
Or the guy who people jokingly tease about his hair, or ears, or whatever and he feels he needs to just laugh it off because to make a big deal would draw more attention to it.
The person who's strapped for cash and has to figure out what they're giving up to join you for dinner.
The person who's spent their entire life trying to get rid of an accent to sound "normal".
The person gay person who thinks everyone would turn on him if they knew.
The straight person who's never had so much as a kiss.
EVERYONE has something that people will focus on from time to time. It's life. The drunk guy doesn't get a pass. You're just more aware of people judging the things that you can relate to. You obviously don't drink that much, so you dismiss it easily. You're obviously quiet so you focus on those things even when people aren't directing them at you.
The problem here is likely nothing more than your perspective. Like I said in my other post, unless you're hanging out with a completely horrible group of people(and I can't emphasize enough how unlikely I believe that to be) this is nothing more than an issue from your perspective.