Awkward Situation: My friend invited me on vacation then told me afterwards her married boyfriend would be there... (husband, member)
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I always said, women are smarter then men, some of the few reasons why, I am a successful guy, lol. The ladies gave you good sound advice, be honest with your gf and tell her, you we're looking forward to a nice quiet get away with her and like one of the posters said, you feel uncomfortable being a third wheel, so tell her to have fun and maybe the both of you can get together next time. I would book a weekend flight with Frontier Airlines (east coast) 139.95 round trip to FT Lauderdale, a good book, quite time, a nice bottle of blue merlot, quite walks on the beach and have some QT time for yourself.
ps- book a hotel on the beach and not across AIA, breakfast on the beach sounds like my idea of waking up and starting the morning. I go often for a weekend get away, It helps the soul, mind and body doing nothing but taking in the sun and having some fun. You deserve it, treat yourself for a change, there's nothing wrong with it. Be well, Stay cool, and have some fun.
Yah. My gut is totally telling me to not go. But I'm just feeling like a bad friend.
A bad "friend"? Because she has the morals of a snake, you don't support her in contributing to the break-up of a marriage, and resent helping her commit adultery?
You've been a recluse too long if this is your idea of a friend.
Overkill and unnecessary. No need at all to bring one's own moral judgments into the picture at all except in one's own mind.
"Judge not", eh? I don't agree with this, and we're just going to have to agree to disagree. You call it "judging", I call it exercising good judgement and choosing to surround yourself with people who have the same moral compass.
I'm not going to tell someone they shouldn't do something. That is their free will. But I sure don't have to help them do it, and I sure don't have to stand by and have their s**t splash on my by association.
Overkill and unnecessary. No need at all to bring one's own moral judgments into the picture at all except in one's own mind.
you think that sleeping with a married man is still in the realm of subjective morality? And frankly it is relevant because that's part of what makes her uncomfortable. Otherwise she would not have mentioned it in her up.
"Judge not", eh? I don't agree with this, and we're just going to have to agree to disagree. You call it "judging", I call it exercising good judgement and choosing to surround yourself with people who have the same moral compass.
I'm not going to tell someone they shouldn't do something. That is their free will. But I sure don't have to help them do it, and I sure don't have to stand by and have their s**t splash on my by association.
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Originally Posted by stan4
you think that sleeping with a married man is still in the realm of subjective morality? And frankly it is relevant because that's part of what makes her uncomfortable. Otherwise she would not have mentioned it in her up.
Lighten up, folks, and put your glasses in place. Some reading comprehension is seriously in order here! It's crystal clear from my previous posts on this thread that I agree with the majority that the OP should decline the trip. I even related two similar incidents which affected me and my vacations. What I was specifically responding to and commenting upon was the opinion that the OP should directly tell her friend that she is, "uncomfortable with the immoral choice (you have) made". If the distinction doesn't register, sorry, but I don't know how to put it any more simply.
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