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When he joked that it could be the end of both their marriages he may not have meant it to be construed that there would be infidelity but maybe that the demands would require a lot of travel and time obligations, late nights, etc.
When he joked that it could be the end of both their marriages he may not have meant it to be construed that there would be infidelity but maybe that the demands would require a lot of travel and time obligations, late nights, etc.
Oh, I think his meaning was clear, and it wasn't that.
I know there can be good platonic working relationships between men and women, but unsure of this situation:
A good friend (younger) tells me she is thinking of going into business with a man who she met at work. The business would involve project planning and presentations and possibly some travel.
Friend 'J' is married, so is the guy, 'E' and the couples socialize together.
I thought it could be a successful venture, they're both talented. Until J told me that at a recent get together, E made a joke that he and J should never get into this business because "it would be the end of both our marriages."
When she told me (we stay in touch tho I've retired from the office) I told her it was a red flag - probably reflected something he had in his subconscious.
Am I an old prude? Or is it a red flag as I suspect?
As a friend I don't feel all that intimately involved, but she asked my feed back and I wanted to see if my reaction was off.
Well, if I were J's wife, my antenna would certainly go up. Sounds like there is a certain attraction there, and the business involved is monkey business. That said, I do believe it's possible for members of the opposite sex to have a friendship that is purely platonic. I had a good platonic male friend for 4 years until he moved to a town all the way across the state. My current housemate is male. He has a girlfriend, and even if he didn't, I wouldn't be interested in having a romantic relationship with him. It IS nice to have a guy around to make all those little repairs that I can't. Plus, I live in a very isolated spot, and he has a couple of guns and knows how to use them. I feel much less vulnerable to a bad person climbing through my window with my housemate around. So, the platonic friendship thing is working well for me so far.
Last edited by Colorado Rambler; 08-14-2014 at 08:34 AM..
Married couples that have friends of the opposite sex should ALWAYS be a friend of the marriage FIRST.
This is the only way it can work, anything else can be a recipe for disaster.
^^^^^ I agree.
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