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My former husband died the first week in January 2000, so it will soon be 15 years. He left behind a brother, mother, grandkids, a daughter.....and me. I remarried a little over 5 years later.
For the 15th anniversary of his passing, I am considering creating a nice slide show of some of my late husband's photos and posting it to Facebook. I have so many photographs and his grandkids barely remember him (they are Facebook friends). I think it would be a nice gesture, well appreciated by many who loved him.
But I don't want to offend my wonderful DH or have any of our friends or his family (who are also FB friends) to see this action as discounting how lucky I am to have married my present husband. If I asked my husband, he would deny that doing so would upset him, but he isn't good about being straight with me about these kinds of things.
It's nice that you are considering your current husband's feelings AND that you are so confident about your relationship.
In my opinion, however, the slideshow would make more sense coming from his daughter.
Since it would be on FB, a LOT of people would not have the context and might wonder. Of course, you may not care one whit about what other people think.
Could you approach his daughter about putting it together, or at least posting it from HER FB page? Or maybe just make a private slideshow and email it to the kids/grandkids.
Agree with the previous comment. Or you could post it yourself, but in your post put something like, "Some people are lucky to find one love in their life. I'm doubly blessed to have had two. Before my good fortune of finding "jerry", I had "tom" who passed away 15 years ago today. As a gift to his friends and family members, I've put together this slide show to honor his memory...." or something similar. I don't see how people would misunderstand that.
Also, if I understand the timing right, you would have a 10-year anniversary with Husband #2 coming up? Maybe you could do a second slide show for him that you post several weeks later?
Or you could post it yourself, but in your post put something like, "Some people are lucky to find one love in their life. I'm doubly blessed to have had two. Before my good fortune of finding "jerry", I had "tom" who passed away 15 years ago today. As a gift to his friends and family members, I've put together this slide show to honor his memory...." or something similar. I don't see how people would misunderstand that.
This ^^^ is a really nice way to put it.
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