Etiquette minefield: No one RSVPs anymore (wife, relatives, Christmas, house)

[Delahanty]

They're inconsiderate, and it doesn't stop at RSVPs because many can't even take the time to thank people for wedding gifts. I won't even get into A, B, and C "levels" of invitees.

For too many, common courtesies certainly do appear to have disappeared.

[texan2yankee]

I get evites mostly these days. They are easily answered and don't require phone calls or mailbox trips. I prefer them, frankly, to the return mail RSVPs, which I still receive sometimes.

[BOS2IAD]

I think that there is no excuse for not RSVP'ing to an invitation. To not respond is rude and inconsiderate, just as it is to say you're attending and then are a no-show. If you are a no-show for a valid reason (a family member got sick, etc.) then at least call the host/hostess as soon as possible to explain and apologize.

I think that those who say "maybe" often do so because they are hoping that something "better" comes along. If that's how they feel about you, then it's not worth trying to keep the friendship going.

[cpg35223]

I'm waiting for some clueless, socially-inept poster to come on and talk about how controlling RSVPs are. These are the same people who think it perfectly okay to show up an hour late to a dinner party.

[KathrynAragon]

Originally Posted by texan2yankee

I get evites mostly these days. They are easily answered and don't require phone calls or mailbox trips. I prefer them, frankly, to the return mail RSVPs, which I still receive sometimes.

Here's the big question though - if you say you're going to be there - are you?

[texan2yankee]

Originally Posted by KathrynAragon

Here's the big question though - if you say you're going to be there - are you?

You betcha!

[KathrynAragon]

Originally Posted by texan2yankee

You betcha!

Well, you are a good and courteous friend. And somewhat of a rarity!

[blueherons]

As a long time event planner, I've never had the problem with people not RSVPing.

I would imagine it is because I'm from the south and we are such sticklers for manners and etiquette.

Seriously, I've NEVER not gotten 99% of my RSVPs for an event.

And yes, there are always no shows but it is negligible.

[MB1972]

Originally Posted by texan2yankee

I get evites mostly these days. They are easily answered and don't require phone calls or mailbox trips. I prefer them, frankly, to the return mail RSVPs, which I still receive sometimes.

I like the way you think. Although I find with evite that many people wait until the last minute to reply which isn't helpful at all with planning

[woxyroxme]

When my daughter got married in September her biggest complaint was how few people RSVPed, especially what it was costing them for the reception.