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Don't mention it. If she's forgotten it, she will only be embarrassed. And if she wasn't really excited about going in the first place, it was probably a clumsy attempt to avoid a confrontation with you over her going to your church.
Let it go. If she decides she wants to go to church with you, you'll be the first one she tells. So, basically she works during th week, and on the weekends, she works from 3 - 10 pm. She's probably exhausted. By the time she gets home, the last thing she wants to think about is getting up at 6:30 am to get ready for church with some work acquaintance, spending the morning at church, and then going back to work again.
she probably didn't want to go to church with you but didn't know how to say no. i would totally let it go. why make her feel uncomfortable?
This. You're giving her advice about how to deal with her (quite possibly) jerkwad of a father. Bad move. Then you're pushing your religion on her at work. Worse move. Then you're getting angry at her for ignoring your pushy invite? I suggest you let go and let, well, you know what they say
just to clarify the situation, I told her that I was going to bring her to church and she laughed it off but I told her that I am not joking .I brought it up few times during the week and I asked her if its okay for me to call on Saturday so we can finalize the plans and she nodded her head and said sure.Why didn't she just decline my invitation if she wasn't intrested?
just to clarify the situation, I told her that I was going to bring her to church and she laughed it off but I told her that I am not joking .I brought it up few times during the week and I asked her if its okay for me to call on Saturday so we can finalize the plans and she nodded her head and said sure.Why didn't she just decline my invitation if she wasn't intrested?
Because she already learned that you can't understand or refuse to understand when she indicates she's not interested. She "laughed it off" (tried to let you know she's not interested) and you "brought it up a FEW times during the week" -- meaning you kept bringing it up even after she tried to indicate she's not interested.
She's trying her best to refuse the invitation gently. Why is it so hard for you to understand she's not interested? She has most likely let you know this several times over in various subtle ways, and you are just pushing her to say outright "NO, I'm not interested" ? Why?
just to clarify the situation, I told her that I was going to bring her to church and she laughed it off but I told her that I am not joking .I brought it up few times during the week and I asked her if its okay for me to call on Saturday so we can finalize the plans and she nodded her head and said sure.Why didn't she just decline my invitation if she wasn't intrested?
Maybe because you kept badgering her about it and refused to accept the fact that she really does not want to go to church with you. Hence the reason she laughed it off when you first mentioned it.
Take the hint and leave the woman alone in regards to religion and church.
Because she already learned that you can't understand or refuse to understand when she indicates she's not interested. She "laughed it off" (tried to let you know she's not interested) and you "brought it up a FEW times during the week" -- meaning you kept bringing it up even after she tried to indicate she's not interested.
She's trying her best to refuse the invitation gently. Why is it so hard for you to understand she's not interested? She has most likely let you know this several times over in various subtle ways, and you are just pushing her to say outright "NO, I'm not interested" ? Why?
I guess I am just not good at picking up hints.It would be nice if every one was straight forward and not beat around the bush
just to clarify the situation, I told her that I was going to bring her to church and she laughed it off but I told her that I am not joking .I brought it up few times during the week and I asked her if its okay for me to call on Saturday so we can finalize the plans and she nodded her head and said sure.Why didn't she just decline my invitation if she wasn't intrested?
Sounds like she has been trying to nicely decline and you won't let it go. Now I don't see her as so rude for not answering her phone when you called.
As a polite person who has zero interest in going to church, I probably would have done the same thing. If you want to continue to be her friend, no more church/religion/God talk.
OP - you said, I told her I was going to bring her to church. This sounds very parental and controlling. You tell your child you're going to bring them to church not a grown woman and certainly not a coworker.
Also, in general, it's really not a good idea to push and religion/church onto anyone. If someone expresses an interest on their own that's one thing. It's such a personal thing.
A suggestion - may want to look in to learning about CoDependency. It's where the behavior is always trying to fix, change, cure and control.
Plenty of well meaning people fall in to this behavior.
Why on earth didn't you politely invite her to attend church with you do engine, rather than informing her repeatedly that she was coming to church with you?
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