Can I uninvite a guest if they ... (husbands, house, friendship)
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You live with your husband. Keep the peace at home. Tell the GF, sorry, we can't accommodate you and the BF. Your hubby is recognizing the red flags about the complaining about the BF. You're overlooking them, in feeling responsible to be generous because she's your best friend.
Trust your hubby on this one. If you don't it will be 8 days of hell watching this couple argue and dirty your guest quarters, and then who-knows-how-long of dealing with your hubby telling you he told you so, LOL. No is an optional answer. As in, "Can I bring my BF who I constantly complain about for 8 days?" "Um, honey, no, sorry."
Thanks all for your replies. I did tell her we are not comfortable with the situation and she said she understood. She will stay with a relative....
I think people who frequently have guests (like her) probably don't think twice about having additional guests. We don't host people overnight typically, so it's tougher for us to have a person we have never met!
Thanks all for your replies. I did tell her we are not comfortable with the situation and she said she understood. She will stay with a relative....
I think people who frequently have guests (like her) probably don't think twice about having additional guests. We don't host people overnight typically, so it's tougher for us to have a person we have never met!
Wow. That was presumptuous of her. Do you have kids? I would not allow any man I never met to stay in my house with my kids. That would be my first excuse. If you don't then you have to gently tell her that you are excited to see her but you and your husband have not met her boyfriend and it would be more comfortable for all if she stayed in a hotel or with family. 8 Days is REALLY long. That would make me have anxiety. I could not have a stranger in my house for that long. She really should have asked.
I would tell her she is more than welcome as you had said earlier.. But if she is bringing anyone then both of them might want to stay at a hotel...
I agree with this. You'd be surprised how complacent a couple can become under your roof and start their BS....tell her no boyfriend or find somewhere else to stay, why sacrifice your sanity and comfort for her comfort package which is her bf?
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Originally Posted by MissTerri
Yep.
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Originally Posted by Pennies4Penny
Eight days is a long time. If it were just a weekend, I would say deal with it, but this is extended. I'd say it's okay to tell her no.
Be honest with her & tell her since you haven't met her boyfriend yet, your family is not comfortable extending an invite to him as well. You would love to have both of them over for dinner sometime while she is in town. If she is reasonable then she will respect your privacy. If she complains about it then she is being immature & pushy.
I guess I'm the only one who thinks it is a little odd. I mean, if you were going to visit your friend, how would you feel if she told you that your husband wasn't welcome? I might have said "Oh, I didn't realize Joe was coming with you. It's a small house so it will be a bit crowded but we'll figure it out." Then she could make other arrangements if she wanted, realizing everyone might be more comfortable that way. But if I were traveling out of town, and someone invited me to visit, I would assume the invitation included my significant other.
I guess I'm the only one who thinks it is a little odd. I mean, if you were going to visit your friend, how would you feel if she told you that your husband wasn't welcome? I might have said "Oh, I didn't realize Joe was coming with you. It's a small house so it will be a bit crowded but we'll figure it out." Then she could make other arrangements if she wanted, realizing everyone might be more comfortable that way. But if I were traveling out of town, and someone invited me to visit, I would assume the invitation included my significant other.
This is to prevent unnecessary quarrels and misunderstandings that could jeopardize friendships. Granted, had the OP's family know the b/f then it is a little odd but this case it is the opposite. Plus all they heard of the b/f was arguments and bad hindsight about the guy. I would do the same as OP in a heartbeat. Perhaps invite him to a dinner or hang out to introduce is a good idea but NOT for an extended stay.
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