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No emotion is inherently healthy or unhealthy. What we do with those emotions - or what we let them do with us - is.
Healthy competition and jealously in a relationship or friendship is therefore neither a good or bad thing. It can further a relationship just as much as it could potentially hamper it.
What you describe however is not healthy. These friendships and these people were not healthy. What they were doing with their emotions and their feelings was not healthy. It is likely best for them - as much as it is for you - that the relationships have come to an end.
Those women need to be axed immediately from your life. None of those situations are healthy or uplift you in anyway. I used to have a friend who was jealous guys would ask me out over her all the time. If two friends aren't on equal footing (similar levels of attractiveness, education, marital status, ect) I find it most likely to being doomed. One married friend was always jealous of my single life, which resulted in her cheating on her great husband. Lost all respect for her and like to save drama for prime time TV only!
No emotion is inherently healthy or unhealthy. What we do with those emotions - or what we let them do with us - is.
Healthy competition and jealously in a relationship or friendship is therefore neither a good or bad thing. It can further a relationship just as much as it could potentially hamper it.
What you describe however is not healthy. These friendships and these people were not healthy. What they were doing with their emotions and their feelings was not healthy. It is likely best for them - as much as it is for you - that the relationships have come to an end.
In my personal observation and opinion, jealousy is not normal between friends, especially true-blue friends; it is, however, normal between women. I personally think some women (but certainly not all women) secretly harbor jealousy, resentment, envy, disdain, and contempt towards other women simply because they see other women as their competition. Competition for men, competition for promotions, competition for the longest hair, competition for the smallest waist, competition for the biggest house, competition for the most successful boyfriend, competition for the most successful boyfriend with the most expensive vehicle, etc.
I don't see other women as my competition (ain't no competition like no competition – just kiddin' – heh heh heh ), I see other women as nothing more than women, nothing more, nothing less. Much like you, I feel no jealousy towards my female friends, and I am very selective with whom I invite into my life as a friend. I can count on one hand the number of female friends that I have and that's including female relatives. When it comes to friends, less is more.
Jealousy is neither healthy nor normal between "friends". Insecure people dealing with personal issues feel jealous of people who are doing well. Its ok to feel a bit insecure or sad if you & your friends are single & one of them gets engaged. It makes you re-evaluate your dating decisions. But that doesn't mean you burst your friend's bubble & make her feel bad. Its not acceptable & you should not hang out with such people. Well-adjusted individuals count their blessings & strive to become better people. They use others' success stories to improve & motivate themselves rather than feel jealous. Even if they cant achieve that level of success they are mature enough to understand you cant have everything in life.
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), I see other women as nothing more than women, nothing more, nothing less. Much like you, I feel no jealousy towards my female friends, and I am very selective with whom I invite into my life as a friend. I can count on one hand the number of female friends that I have and that's including female relatives. When it comes to friends, less is more.
