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One of my sisters is an long term unemployed and she has been moving from one relative to anther while she waits out the recession. After Mom and Dad kicked her out of their home for freeloading and not seriously looking for work, she showed up unannounced at our door step looking for a temporary place to live. What could we do but let her come inside and live with us for awhile.
"Awhile" has been a few months and my wife wants my sister gone. But where can we send her? She has already overstayed her welcome at my parents home and my other family members don't want her.
Anyway, how could we actually evict her legally? Can we hire someone to physically move her out and get a court order for her to never return to our home? My wife says maybe we can put her up in an extended stay hotel for a month but after a month she will show up at our door step again. Any advice?
Depends on where you live. Some states you can kick her butt to the curb, other states she'll have legal rights and you will have to treat her as a tenant. You should find out what applies in your area. If she has tenant's rights, follow the necessary steps and evict her this way even if it means it takes more time & costs a few dollars. It'll save you some heartache in the long run.
NEVER let her back in once you get her out. NEVER.
One of my sisters is an long term unemployed and she has been moving from one relative to anther while she waits out the recession. After Mom and Dad kicked her out of their home for freeloading and not seriously looking for work, she showed up unannounced at our door step looking for a temporary place to live. What could we do but let her come inside and live with us for awhile.
"Awhile" has been a few months and my wife wants my sister gone. But where can we send her? She has already overstayed her welcome at my parents home and my other family members don't want her.
Anyway, how could we actually evict her legally? Can we hire someone to physically move her out and get a court order for her to never return to our home? My wife says maybe we can put her up in an extended stay hotel for a month but after a month she will show up at our door step again. Any advice?
Tell her no.
Because of the exact problem you're having now.
The vampire can't get in if you don't invite him. Once he's in, he's firmly latched to your neck.
Brother, sister, whoever the hell...pattern of laziness? Never setting foot in my door.
She's your sister!
I'd tell the wife if she don't like it then she should move out.
You can always get another wife but you can't get another sis.
Agreed 50% chance your wife will divorce you anyway. I'd force any immediate relative to work on themselves while with me but wouldn't necessarily kick them out.
Give her a 30 day eviction notice and say if she gets mental help AND gets a job to pay some rent (even a little) she can stay. That should work.
If you hit hard times would you like to be denied help from relatives? I've had hard times and lived with my mom and now I do quite well. It is what it is. Until you've experienced long-term joblessness, you can't comment on it. However, changing fields and acquiring new skills ASAP will be necessary.
How old is she? Most 25-50 year old woman in good physical condition can get a man to help them financially. Is she capable of holding and/or getting a job?
I'm surprised no one mentioned this but the first thing I would do is call everyone I know and see if anyone can get her a job.
How old is she? Most 25-50 year old woman in good physical condition can get a man to help them financially. Is she capable of holding and/or getting a job?
I'm surprised no one mentioned this but the first thing I would do is call everyone I know and see if anyone can get her a job.
She is forty six years old and is over three hundreds pounds. No man for her, nor any friends either.
Like I said before, if I was ever down on my luck and someone took me in, I would be chipping in so much with the chores and cooking, they would be SAD to see me leave.
This woman may be your sister, but she is taking advantage of you and your wife and not showing any gratitude. Just because someone is "family" doesn't entitle them to treat you like crap, nor does it require you to take it.
So, to answer your question "Would you kick an unemployed relative out of your house?" - Yes, for this one, I would.
I come from backround which took care of the old people and rescued neighbours kids
Cool story bro. Do you recognize that there's a difference between "old people and rescued neighbours kids" and working-age adults who have been freeloading (i.e. not contributing to household upkeep even though they are physically able to) on one family member after another?
So OP - you and your wife gave her a week to leave and she balked. This won't be easy.
Start legal, 30-day eviction proceedings. Make photocopies of the documents.
Approach her again. Say "We've talked it over and we've agreed to be a little more generous, though you still have to leave. Instead of only giving you a week to find another place, you will have a month. However, just to let you know that we're serious about this, if by July 1st you have not left, we will have to have you removed from our house. Here are the 30-day eviction papers we have filed."
Honestly, one week's notice seems a little swift, but since you've already given her that timeline, it makes you look more magnanimous if you say "Allright, you can have a month". However, you'd have to balance that leniency by letting her know you are deadly serious, which is where the legal papers come into play. She needs to be scared into taking this seriously.
One thought - if she's super-morbidly obese, is it possible she could qualify for disability? At least enough to be able to share an apartment with someone?
Another thought - someone else said "you can always replace your wife, but you can't replace your sister". I think the opposite. You can't pick family, but you're stuck with them for life. However, if you have a marriage that you value, that brings joy and love to your life, that is something sacred that you want to protect. It's not easy to replicate. I think it's great that you're sticking by your wife, here. She'll be the one holding your hand when you're old and ill, not your sister.
She's your sister!
I'd tell the wife if she don't like it then she should move out.
You can always get another wife but you can't get another sis.
What would make you think he wants another sis? He can't get rid of the one he's got!
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