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i came back from a trip to my uncles house and when i got home i told my 2 sisters and brother about my cousin.
hes pretty bad and has committed a few crimes. i told them about what crimes hes done and how the family situation was at my uncles house(not good).
i wasn't even thinking about it at the time, they asked me about everyone and how they were doing. but now im thinking about everything i said and feel really bad about gossiping about my cousin like that behind his back.
i asked my sibling to promise not to tell anyone but im scared they will and the whole extended family will know about it.
should i tell him i told them all that stuff or just keep it to myself and hope my sibling don't tell anyone? i feel really bad about this, i completely betrayed his trust, its keeping me from sleeping and im constantly worried my sibling will tell someone.
"hes pretty bad and has committed a few crimes. i told them about what crimes hes done and how the family situation was at my uncles house(not good)."
You didn't say what crimes he committed. Last time I checked, a crime is an illegal act. To me, you did right by sharing info in regards to the crimes he did with your family. I do not consider this gossip. Once he gets arrested, it is going to be public information. If he asked you to keep a secret(s) about crimes he committed, then he is in the wrong, not you. I think you did the right thing. He is the criminal. If he poses any threat to anyone it is especially good that you shared the information. Let go of the guilt.
no no, the crimes im talking about are in the past that hes committed. he told me about them but the rest of the family besides my uncles family doesn't know hes a "bad" guy that committed crimes, does drugs.
hes not doing anything illegal now besides some drugs, but he told me all this stuff in confidence. no one outside my uncles family knows how he is and im worried that it will get out and everyone will know.
should i just tell him i told them all that stuff or what. i really have know idea I've never told a friends secrets like this before i honestly don't know what i was thinking. its eating me up, i feel like a snake.
I would let it go--for now--and not bring it up.
You know...he really burdened you by telling you things like that about him and then told you not to tell anyone. Your uncle's family knows about these things--they could have already told other people, who then told others. And it sounds like the burden got too much for you to carry alone and that may be why you uncharacteristically felt the need to share what he told you. I have a feeling that you are pretty good at keeping things to yourself in most cases.
Try not to let it bother you. You may have betrayed a confidence; however, it is not like you committed a crime(s).
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