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Not sure if I've just become a cold bitty or if I'm getting to that age where I don't feel like putting up with petty BS or people, but lately I've felt like I've been distancing myself from people who have added drama to my life and am quick to cut someone of.
A little while back I posted about this girl who started out as a friend but started to show her true colors. Most of you told me to not participate in things that she did and I responded that it was hard since we had the same group of friends.
WELL, a very short while after that, I started my new job which keeps me running around and unavailable to my social circle, so the few free times that I had, I had no interest in spending it with that girl. So I became distant to that group of friends.
Now, I'm getting ready to cut off another girl in that group who I thought was a good friend of mine...until yesterday.
A little background on this girl - she is a BIG busy body. She likes to involve herself in everyone's business. Its like she gets a high from knowing everyone's information and/or sharing it with someone else.
Yesterday, I was finishing up at work and looked at my phone and saw I had a couple texts from her. The texts started with her saying "OMG - so random", "You'll never believe this" and then asked me if the guy I hooked up with on a ski trip back at the beginning of February was named Chris. I responded and said "No, it was Nick. But he had a friend named Chris. Why?".
So she calls me and long story, short, this girl that she was good friends with growing up (but had not spoken to in 10 years) reached out to her because she was moving to our city. She wanted to know if she knew of someone who had a place to rent. My friend put her in touch with that person and that was it. Then, this girl calls my friend back randomly one day and the first thing she asks her is "Did your friend sweetjess hook up with a guy named Chris while she was on her ski trip?". She said that she used to date him long distance and now they are broken up, but she needed to know if we hooked up while they were together.
Now, my friend goes on about how crazy this girl is and totally positioned this like "Omg, I haven't talked to this girl in 10 years", told me they had a falling out and that was why they hadn't talked. Even told me herself that this girl was crazy. Apparently this girl stalked out my facebook, my friend's facebook and this guy's facebook and saw pictures of me and the guy tagged and then did more research to see when we became friends on facebook. Then she said that this girl asked her to ask me if we did and was literally blowing up her phone asking her if she had heard back from me.
My vague response was 1. Laughing 2. Laughing some more 3. Saying no, Chris and I did not hook up, we are just friends and not that it was her business, but he actually behaved on the trip 3. She was crazy.
My friend and I chatted a bit more and then I told her I had to go and get ready for my volleyball game. I left work, went home and ate dinner and went to play my game. I got home last night and Chris and I happened to start chatting and I briefly brought up the situation and he just responded that she was ridiculous and that she had been acting crazy and it was time to block her. We said our goodbyes and I got in bed.
Not even 5 minutes later I get bombarded by texts from my friend. I'm going to post the texts below to show how blame shifting they were, but I was super pissed. I'm not one to run and tell my friends business, in fact, I don't care enough to do so. Chris and I are friends and were jut chatting. I didn't even go into detail. I told her she mentioned nothing of the fact of not saying anything to Chris and then she tried to justify it by saying he's not even my friend since I've only known him since February. You can get the gist of it from the text but I was SO mad at how she acted. She didn't even apologize or acknowledge the fact that she STARTED this whole thing. SHE was the one who called me gossiping about her friend and if she hadn't said this girl was crazy and acted like she wasn't friends with her, I never would have said anything to Chris. And maybe I'm wrong for mentioning it to Chris so I take responsibility for that. But I'm just so sick of people doing things and then when they get caught, they try to blame someone else.
Her texts:
"Seriously?!?! You didn't call me back and I trusted you with that story about her. I grew up with this girl"
"We are too old to be caught up in this drama"
"Seriously. It was so crazy. I wouldn't have said a f'in word if I knew you would say something to Chris. But you had to jump on your phone and act like we are 16?! Why does everything have to be a story?!"
"I confided in you. You could have simply asked me if you could tell him because he isn't your best friend and you dont talk to him everyday"
"I'm just annoyed because I feel like anything I say I have to make sure I put a disclaimer out"
"I was waiting until you were free or when I thought you were to fill you in on the rest of the story.
"I'm over the gossip so I'll keep my mouth shut"
"This girl from high school and I just talked about it. I would rather just not know anymore details from either side. Urs. His. Hers. Whatever. lol. Don't care. In general I'm just over the drama and the gossip. All of it"
"I turn 33 in a couple of weeks and life is too short for this drama. I have a new lease on life!"
TL;DR. Sorry OP, but just the fact that you took all that time to type out the silly, incomprehensible details of what went down leads me to believe that you enjoy the drama, even when you say you don't.
If you truly don't enjoy the drama, the in the words of Elsa ... LET IT GO!
TL;DR. Sorry OP, but just the fact that you took all that time to type out the silly, incomprehensible details of what went down leads me to believe that you enjoy the drama, even when you say you don't.
If you truly don't enjoy the drama, the in the words of Elsa ... LET IT GO!
Repped . (in spirit anyway, I need to spread the love).
TL;DR. Sorry OP, but just the fact that you took all that time to type out the silly, incomprehensible details of what went down leads me to believe that you enjoy the drama, even when you say you don't.
If you truly don't enjoy the drama, the in the words of Elsa ... LET IT GO!
As a proud granddad, I can tell you that Elsa is a fictional character from the movie Frozen.
She is voiced primarily by Broadway actress and singer Idina Menzel. At the beginning of the film, she is voiced by Eva Bella as a young child and by Spencer Lacey Ganus as a teenager.
Frozen? That insipid (yet oddly catchy) song that was heard on a near endless loop last year?
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. (in spirit anyway, I need to spread the love).
