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I've got a couple of acquaintances like this, everything is mind-blowing to them, or so they pretend. I know for a fact the one guy is a people pleaser, the type that laughs at every joke, that overextends himself (then complains about all that he's doing for the person with no return). Another co-worker laughs at literally everything that is said to him, and it's that LOUD, room-shattering laughter. Literally every sentence said to him evokes laughter.
The good points about these guys is that they seem to be be in good moods most of the time and don't sweat small details (as I do), and both are reasonably intelligent people. But does the constant 'joy' and mirth annoy anyone else, especially when it seems contrived sometimes?
I don't mind people who laugh at every joke because it could be a social awkward thing. Now the guy you mention who laughs LOUD may be a different issue as far as annoyance.
As far as the always excited and constant joy type - I don't mind them in general - it's not a horrible way to be. I admit though I get annoyed with those people if they are trying to force their view on you. I would feel the same about a always pessimistic/grumpy person as well.
I am sure I have annoyed many people throughout my life because I have been like both of the people you described--not one--both.
Now I am not as much a people pleaser as I am a God and pleasing/accepting myself. Also, if something is not funny--I just don't laugh. I just sit there with a blank look on my face as if someone passed gas.
So, I wonder if I annoy less people now being the way I am. I don't care.
I wonder if your loud co-worker is a drunk, OP. Meetings at your office must be a literal laugh riot. I don't blame you for being annoyed. It's exhausting being around someone like that, who is so obviously trying to cover up for...what, I don't know, but something.
It reminds me of Joe Biden's wildly-inappropriate behavior.
I do have a friend to whom everything is "amaaaazing!". She'll say it after even a mildly funny or mildly unusual story is told, almost as short hand for "That's interesting or mildly amusing!".
You: "The mailman didn't come until 5 yesterday. He said his mail truck broke down earlier."
Her: "Oh my God, that's so amazing!"
(No, she doesn't do it sarcastically). I'm not sure she's even aware that she uses that word so often - this is a really intelligent, accomplished person. A little younger than me - she'll probably grow out of it.
I get what you mean, I think. There's a difference between someone being pleasant and optimistic in a calm way, and the over-the-top bubbly type. One relaxes you, the other exhausts you.
I had a sister-in-law like that. I think she was overcompensating for my curmudgeon brother, but she wore me out. Can we just smile and do the dishes together in peace, does it have to be exciting?? She required effort to be around. You couldn't just "be" with her.
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