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Sounds like an excuse to drink excessively. . . albeit I do not know this individual, am just commenting on someone who may be an alcoholic and looking for a reason to drink (and some don't need a reason).
I have a friend who is drinking heavily this Thanksgiving weekend and I believe that he is alone. Do you have any friends that spends Thanksgiving alone and drinks very hard?
I think you should dial down the pity for the guy. For people who live far away from family, usually they can only go home for Thanksgiving OR Christmas, not both (due to leave balances and travel costs).
So if home alone for Thanksgiving, it can be a nice break before the storm. The storm usually includes a number of Christmas events/parties, shopping, travel prep, etc.
I'm going to try to do less of this this year. I have nobody in my life and Christmas especially would be a good excuse to drink. Christmas is much harder for me than Thanksgiving because of the memories. Yesterday someone I just met asked me if I was going to decorate for Christmas this year, and I felt like a Scrooge when I said "no, I haven't done that since my divorce". I didn't want to elaborate, but they got the message. Anyway, I've debated quitting drinking altogether before it becomes an issue. Maybe I should stop for 30 days beginning on Jan 1 and see if it sticks. Food for thought.
My roller skating boyfriend is 84 and his family neglected him on Thanksgiving. I invited him to come to our house as we have another friend that joined us who is in the same boat, but we live an hour away from each other and he doesn't drive at night. I saw him this morning and I brought him a nice plate from our meal yesterday. I know most of us reap what we sew with relationships but I think it's just cruel to leave people behind on the holidays. Especially elderly ones. I always give him a big hug after skating and it took him months before he would hug me back. Now he waits for his hug before he leaves after skating. I'm sure it's the only physical contact he has with anyone. I feel sorry for him and anybody else alone on the holidays.
It would help to see if they can tag along with you, or even just suggest a place to go. Holidays are rough on a lot of people without family or who just don't like all the expectations that come with the holidays.
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