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OMG, you even considered GETTING A JOB! Does anyone in your family work?
You want to not live like this? You want to get away from this? Here is what you do:
Leave for school early every morning. Go to the library before classes begin, and do schoolwork. Stay late at school, as late as you can. Study there, since there is only chaos at home. Come home to eat and go to bed. Get yourself a part time job, and DO NOT BRING THAT MONEY HOME! Keep the job, by being on time, polite, friendly, pleasant, cheerful, hard-working and cooperative. Open up a savings account for yourself, and don't let ANYONE know that it exists. Save your earnings. Do well in school. Don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend. Don't get sexually involved with anyone. Above all, DON"T GET PREGNANT. Go see the guidance counselor a lot, talk with her about college or public community college trade school. Go to college, preferably on scholarship/financial aid, preferably living in the dorms. Go home as little as possible. Get work in the summers in a resort, or a summer camp - any place where you don't have to go home. Get a degree which will enable you to earn a living right away - nursing or ancillary medical field, technical work that's in demand like welding, electrician, plumbing, etc. Become independent, rent your own place, be prepared to take care of your mother if you need to down the road, but do NOT let any freeloading relatives come feed off you.
From my experience, you need an adult on your account if you are a minor. That said, also from my experience, they don't have to be your parent. But they will have access to your funds.
From my experience, you need an adult on your account if you are a minor. That said, also from my experience, they don't have to be your parent. But they will have access to your funds.
Ugh, I think you are right. I have a feeling that any money that this girl were to earn, should she decide to actually get a job, would be gone in a split second, were any family member to get their hands on it.
It didn't used to be that way, I don't think. I remember having my own savings account in the 1970s, while a minor, and I don't think I had a parent named on the account. But that was before anti - money laundering laws were passed. I didn't even need a social security number to open a savings account back then.
Ugh, I think you are right. I have a feeling that any money that this girl were to earn, should she decide to actually get a job, would be gone in a split second, were any family member to get their hands on it.
If it's a he, then why isn't he sharing a room with the his brother, so that he can get some sleep?
I am a "he"one and two, I never really thought about it. I usually don't go in their room's because they have girls over, but that's a good idea too run by them anyways.
Being the kid in the house, it isn't your job to manage the guests. If I were you, I'd start staying out of the house more. Your mom needs to be the one to set boundaries with them, but if she doesn't then she needs to take it on herself. Get your butt in the library and get your grades back up. That's a good way to stay away from the house.
Also, have you talked to your mom about how you feel?
Trust me, this isn't the first time my mom fell into this trap.
I told my mom million's of times, how manipulative they can be, and how they take advantage of her at times.
Today we got into an argument cause I told her, we need too enforce more rules while they're staying and she kinda went on a speech of how she was raised too stand by family and blah blah blah.
OMG, you even considered GETTING A JOB! Does anyone in your family work?
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The point of trying too work part time, is too have an excuse too stay out more, and have money too do stuff for myself while I'm out. Of course my family works.. Finances' (as far as I know) isn't a big big issue.
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