Miss Christmas with my husband and in-laws?

[maciesmom]

Additionally, there really are marriages in which two people can function independently.

Completely irrelevant here. This couple is not overly attached, no matter how many times you imply it. In fact, it seems they actually spend more time apart than together. The husband wanted to spend Christmas together and the wife had an obligation to help her parents. The OP felt she needed to accommodate everyone and asked for suggestions. The husband coming to her was the obvious solution. No one insisted he MUST fly out or that marriage required them to be together. That attitude is simply something that you've created as a result of.....I don't know what, but it's clearly a sensitive subject for you.

[Kibbiekat]

Originally Posted by otterhere

I "assumed" that because she wouldn't have had reason to post otherwise; it would have just happened.


(SMH)


How much longer can we all say the same things over and over?

You are the one who keeps posting that you don't understand. You are the one who keeps dragging this out. It has all been said. If you don't understand by now, you never will, so quit asking.

[runswithscissors]

Originally Posted by otterhere

kokonutty, I too was baffled by the unanimous outcry that the husband MUST fly across the country to be with her. Glad I'm not the only one!

Were you baffled by the husband guilt tripping the wife into thinking she should abandon her parents in time of crisis so she could eat turkey and make small talk for a day?

The only reason he "had to" do so was if HE insisted on being together.

Christmas or no Christmas most NORMAL MARRIAGES would see the two spouses help each other or at least UNDERSTAND why one can't be with the other.