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Yeah my friend who also has spinal cord damage has to wear them when she goes places she can't immediately get to bathroom. She's also stated how she's had to change her entire wardrobe and can't wear anything cute anymore.
Yes it matters.
I spent all of middle and high school overweight.
I'm not now. It's not fair. I don't want to put on a pair of depends and have to put on pants that will hide them.
You can't wear leggings and depends.
Depends also means conservative clothing because that all that will hide them.
Loose fitting shorts, pants etc.
Seriously if the rest of my life is going to be this miserable then I'd like to be stuck dead already.
I didn't just spend majority of my like with image issues to finally be ok with myself and not be able to wear the clothes I waited so long to be able to fit into.
I rather just end it all than make those changes.
I don't want that life, it's not me, it's not who I am.
Use Pads and carry a change of clothes with you. Quit being so dramatic.
Yeah my friend who also has spinal cord damage has to wear them when she goes places she can't immediately get to bathroom. She's also stated how she's had to change her entire wardrobe and can't wear anything cute anymore.
Yes it matters.
I spent all of middle and high school overweight.
I'm not now. It's not fair. I don't want to put on a pair of depends and have to put on pants that will hide them.
You can't wear leggings and depends.
Depends also means conservative clothing because that all that will hide them.
Loose fitting shorts, pants etc.
Seriously if the rest of my life is going to be this miserable then I'd like to be stuck dead already.
I didn't just spend majority of my like with image issues to finally be ok with myself and not be able to wear the clothes I waited so long to be able to fit into.
I rather just end it all than make those changes.
I don't want that life, it's not me, it's not who I am.
"Don't want to wear Depends" is not a valid reason to receive disability.
I'm still waiting to hear about this awesome new career.
You never know, I may need to change things up at some point, and I'm too young to retire so....do share!
I'm not dealing with my injuries very well.
Not accepting it. Don't want to.
Honestly, your whining, excuses and grandiose future plans hasn't changed one iota since you started posting. What were you then 17-18? Same old same old. The accident is just one more excuse. If it wasn't that, it'd be something else.
Yeah my friend who also has spinal cord damage has to wear them when she goes places she can't immediately get to bathroom. She's also stated how she's had to change her entire wardrobe and can't wear anything cute anymore.
Yes it matters.
I spent all of middle and high school overweight.
I'm not now. It's not fair. I don't want to put on a pair of depends and have to put on pants that will hide them.
You can't wear leggings and depends.
Depends also means conservative clothing because that all that will hide them.
Loose fitting shorts, pants etc.
Seriously if the rest of my life is going to be this miserable then I'd like to be stuck dead already.
I didn't just spend majority of my like with image issues to finally be ok with myself and not be able to wear the clothes I waited so long to be able to fit into.
I rather just end it all than make those changes.
I don't want that life, it's not me, it's not who I am.
A friend of mine suffered serious brain damage in a car accident and now functions at the level of an 8 year old. He has a college degree, was employed full time at a professional job, married with two kids. Now, he is in a group home with full time supervision, his wife divorced him and his kids can do many things that he is not capable of doing anymore. He receives disability just like you are trying to get. And, he deserves it as he is completely unable to work anymore.
Guess what? He does not whine and complain that he doesn't "want that life, it's not me, it's not who I am". He is just thankful that he is not dead and thankful that he has a place to live and food to eat and thankful that he sees his family on a regular basis.
And, you are whining because you can't wear "cute clothes"! (which is actually not correct) Sheesh! Grow up!
I'm hoping for a second surgery to fix what the surgeon didn't and to take the metal out. The metal hurts my back so much it's not funny. I can feel it constantly.
Not outside of a career, if I chose a career that suffocating.
Outside of a job who's going to tell me what to do?
Government, your debtors, doctors, disability clerks, insurance people, employers, your BF if he becomes so inclined (you have no income so you are definitely not in a position of power), almost everyone.
You take no responsibility for yourself so you relinquish your control to everyone else.
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You could be so brain damaged that you can't even take care of yourself and never be the same person again. This is near and dear to me. I am related to someone who suffered a closed head injury after a car accident. She was never the same. She can't live on her own. She could no longer care for her child who grew up without either parent in her life (her father was killed in the crash). Read germaine's post above me, about her friend in the car crash that now has to live in a group home and lost his job and marriage because of a car crash. That could've easily happened to you. It may not seem like it, but you were lucky to get out of the crash as you did. You have an incredible opportunity to rebuild your life and you are squandering it complaining about what DID happen. That's why people are so upset. But I'm sure this will fall on deaf ears like all the other posts...
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