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Hey guys! So I have been friends with this girl for 3 years. I met her in high school and we got along pretty well. We rarely fought. But we didn't spend that much time together I think. Mostly at school and we used to talk about music and movies and tv shows and things like that on the phone. When we went out the same. So no drama really. But this year we went to uni to another city and moved out together.
I don't know how but I knew it was going to be like this. I just feels like she is controlling and acts like a posessive husband. I know I am a sensitive person and get automatically too upset when we have a small fight but I just feel like it is too much for me sometimes and just wanna take my stuff and go home. I just feel like she gets super angry whenever I don't do what she says. I'm gonna give a few examples.
She wanted to go to the city two weeks before uni started. I told her I didn't wanna do that and just wanted to stay at home until then. She went mad and yelled at me because I didn't wanna go. Told me I was complicating things and stuff like that. I felt sick 2 weeks ago and wanted to go home earlier than weekend and she went mad because I didn't wanna stay with her until the weekend. She doesn't like to stay at home cause of her family problems and I understand that but I just feel like she is forcing me to stay there with her. I know she doesn't like to be alone but I just want to stay at home sometimes and have privacy and stuff but everytime I get thursdays and fridays free I am scared to go home earlier than saturday just because she might go mad at me. Am I exaggerating?
I am just scared to do ANYTHING cause I might make her go mad at me. I am in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend wanted to take me to his country for Christmas but she went mad and told me not to go alone cause something bad might happen to me and there's no one to help me and I can't trust my bf cause I haven't known him for a long time and that I would regret going etc. She stayed 30 mins on the phone to convince me not to go. I wasn't scared to tell my parents I wanted to go but I was scared to tell her. I don't know why I am so scared of her.
After I came back from my boyfriend and went back to the city with her she complained that I was texting my bf too much and didn't talk to her. Ofc I needed to chat more to him than usual cause I was feeling like hell cause I was missing him. But of course I was still talking to her and I explained that to her and then she said she felt like I like to talk to him more than to her and it made her feel bad.
She sometimes complains that she has to stand my sh*t and I tell her that I can move out from there because she doesn't have to stay with me if she doesn't want to but then she says she stands my sh*t because she loves me. She sometimes makes me feel insecure saying that I would be lost without her because I don't know how to do many things like cooking and I am not good with the bills and **** like that. But those things are easily to be learnt. I am her only close friend atm and maybe that's why she doesn't want me to go even if she possibly doesn't stand me at all. I know I hate to live with her but I don't know she might feel the same.
I am just sick of all these fears. I am scared to go home cause she might go mad, I am scared to chat to my bf cause she might go bad. And she is really touchy too. She wants me to cuddle her sometimes Moderator cut: delete My mom is scared she might be a lesbian but I don't think that. Maybe her mom is like that to her (takes too much care of her) and she is the same with me..?
Sorry if this was too long or if my english was bad. I am not a native and I didn't have time to re-read it.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 01-19-2016 at 08:56 PM..
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She's being a pain in the ass to you, just drop her and don't look back. You'll be better off with freedom and without a crazy lesbian who tries to cut you off from the world so you become dependent on her.
She tells you she loves you, fondles your private parts, and you don't think at all shes a lesbian?
Have she ever had a bf or showed interest in men?
Well she has never had a bf before but the guy I am with is also my first boyfriend and I met him like a year ago. So I don't think that would make her a lesbian. She did go on a date with two guys tho and kissed one of them but she said she was not attracted to them cause they were not physically attractive. Well maybe she is just playful, I sometimes slap her ass too as a joke but I don't do that all the time just ocassionally as a joke but she keeps doing that to me and it is really annoying. I think she is just controlling and craves love from everyone..?
I don't think she's a lesbian.
I think she's insane.
The two are not necessarily exclusive. I would say that the OP's friend falls under both categories.
OP, unless you enjoy having your private parts touched by this person, I would urge you to tell her to stop doing it. Otherwise, you are leading her on and making her think that you are interested in her in a romantic way.
I don't think she's a lesbian.
I think she's insane.
She may be a lesbian, she may not be. It almost doesn't matter. The more important issue is that she's insane - this woman is seriously unbalanced and dysfunctional, and you need to get as far away from this psycho wackjob as you can, as fast as you can. This sounds like the opening act of one of those psychological drama/suspense movies that seldom have a happy ending.
She may be a lesbian, she may not be. It almost doesn't matter. The more important issue is that she's insane - this woman is seriously unbalanced and dysfunctional, and you need to get as far away from this psycho wackjob as you can, as fast as you can. This sounds like the opening act of one of those psychological drama/suspense movies that seldom have a happy ending.
Why do you guys think it is that bad? :O You make me feel trapped haha
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