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It makes me wonder how much else she has in her life. You describe her as a SAHM with grown kids-- if I'm assuming the kids are adults then, she is really a stay at home housewife. If she doesn't have a lot of activities going on outside of these nighttime social activities, she's probably itching for adult companionship. She could be talking about herself to make herself sound important and active and adventurous or whatever, or she could be just be socially pretty clueless.
In any case, I would probably do a little behavior shaping . I would comment on her personal sharing as little as possible, but really comment profusely anytime she shows interest in someone else. People like that are exhausting.
The song is really funny, and it's so true. Anyone who knows a person like this can really relate to Toby's behavior in the video. He looks tired, worn out, and indifferent. And you're right. Sometimes, stay at home mothers have little going on other than their home life. And since the kids are grown, they are pretty independent, even though both still live at home. They drive, do their own chores, work, etc. So they're off doing their own things, her husband is working, and she's by herself, and she doesn't have a job to occupy her time or attention either. Also, working is a useful social outlet. Most of us employees get to talk with our clients and coworkers, which is an important social support (no matter how much we complain about them). I think SAHMs are often isolated because they don't have that available.
The song is really funny, and it's so true. Anyone who knows a person like this can really relate to Toby's behavior in the video. He looks tired, worn out, and indifferent. And you're right. Sometimes, stay at home mothers have little going on other than their home life. And since the kids are grown, they are pretty independent, even though both still live at home. They drive, do their own chores, work, etc. So they're off doing their own things, her husband is working, and she's by herself, and she doesn't have a job to occupy her time or attention either. Also, working is a useful social outlet. Most of us employees get to talk with our clients and coworkers, which is an important social support (no matter how much we complain about them). I think SAHMs are often isolated because they don't have that available.
Her being a SAHM has nothing to do with her just talking about herself. You already said she shows no interest in others, she would be the same way if she had a big career.
This is who these people are. Either you get that or you don't.
If Lisa had a job, than you would be hearing about the job. You could tell her you just got a big promotion or just got laid off, she would give you a quick response and than back to talking her job or whatever else as long as it's about her.
Personally I would distance myself, you don't have a lot of time invested in knowing her.
It doesn't really bother me as long as they're are generally optimistic and positive. The ones I avoid are type that are always victim blaming, complain how others have wronged them, looking for sympathy etc.
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. I would comment on her personal sharing as little as possible, but really comment profusely anytime she shows interest in someone else. People like that are exhausting.
