I got rejected on Social Media by someone who I thought was my friend? (affection, sister)

[thalia.leighton]

Originally Posted by SageCats

You don't talk or type like a 17 or 18 year old. Your use of the English language is too proper. (I was a teacher, I taught adolescents and you certainly don't sound like one of them.) No one your age would use expressions like "note taken.." or punctuation and contractions as correctly as you do.

You're digging yourself into a deeper hole each time. I doubt you are who you say you are.

Um…. ok? I didn't realize that my grammar would determine whether or not I'm "who I say I am"? I mean first of all my punctuation is actually pretty bad on here tbh idk what you're talking about lmao

[WeHa]

For someone who claims to be a habitual "cyber stalker" you sure have put a ton of info out there. I would think you'd know better. You claim to he a user of social media, but again, seem clueless about what info to post online.

From what you've posted here, so one can easily figure out exactly who you are. Your twitter, Instagram, Facebook, high school and more.

[Pitt Chick]

Originally Posted by thalia.leighton

THIS post isn't an overshare of info, it's just a girl being extremely mean to me and blocking me after SHE was the one who ignored me when I'd done nothing to her

You still don't get it... and still no remorse.

[Inkpoe]

Originally Posted by thalia.leighton

There was a reason why that thread was deleted, because i shouldn't have been stupid enough to type it up on here in the first place but at the time I hadn't gone to any of these sites before and wasn't exactly aware of that, and i was pretty desperate for advice too, it was an overshare of info and idk how people even know about it since it was deleted. Plus if you'd read the entire first thread/post or whatever, you'd know that SHE had done something to me that gave me the ammo to leak those pictures. THIS post isn't an overshare of info, it's just a girl being extremely mean to me and blocking me after SHE was the one who ignored me when I'd done nothing to her, yet when I actually stand up for myself and confront her for ignoring me, I get called "freak" "weirdo" "mentally insane" and other cruel names. As if the hate i get at school isn't enough.

I remember your first thread. And actually no, your friend did absolutely nothing that deserve you going out of your way to expose her like that. That's just you trying to justify your retaliation.

In THIS case, you're still trying to justify your retaliation. You're "standing up" for yourself?


You were given advice... which you've blown off. You need to seek a therapist. At this point, the therapist can give you the best advice and help you need.

[goofy328]

Originally Posted by thalia.leighton

Over the past few months, I've been really lonely at school. It's been pretty terrible. Something happened to me right before Christmas break and right after the holidays word had gotten around about what happened to the entire school and now long story short everybody at school hates me. Inevitably I don't have anyone to hang out with, and I just don't think I've ever felt this isolated in my entire life. I'm a senior in High School, so there's also tons of schoolwork I have yet to complete, if I ever want to get into college, that is. I don't know, I guess I'm in that stage where I just can't bring myself to do anything.

Anyway, around the beginning of January right after school began,<edit>social media,and I saw this really cool account that had some cool posts on it.<snip> I didn't realize that blue tick thing meant you were famous so I didn't really know who she was until I read the comments (she's not famous herself, she just comes from a very famous family) but I'd rather not mention who she is because then if people who follow her see my post they're going to start attacking me on Instagram even more (same username) and I'm already getting enough hate.

Anyway, before I realized she was who she was, I DM'd her that I thought her account was really cool and asked her if she'd like to chat (no I'm not a creepy stalker, just a lonely teenager) since she's around my age. Then I waited for like a week and nothing. So I got slightly hurt and went to the comment section to see if she was replying to anyone there instead of DM, and by reading the comments I realized who's daughter she was. At first I was like "whoa this is legit his daughter and she probably thinks I'm creepy as hell" but for some reason I really wanted her to reply to me. I cyber-stalked her afterwards and found out some stuff from websites that made me relate to her even more. So I tried again in the comment section, and finally after a few days of writing her stuff she finally replied to me. I was so happy, like you have no idea. I had to re-read her reply like 10 times. She just seemed like such a cool girl and I just really wanted a friend and she seemed perfect, and she lives relatively close to me as well (I found out online) so I had this whole image in my head that we could meet up for coffee and become best friends and all that pretty stuff (yeah I know I sound crazy idk what I was thinking either) so I DM'd her again and that time she actually replied to me on there. We chatted back and forth, and I felt really special because so many people in the comment section were trying so hard to get her to notice them, and here she was DM'ing me. But more than that, it felt awesome to finally have a friend again. Then out of nowhere, she just stopped DM'ing me. Like I could see she was online and liking stuff, and I knew she saw my messages, but she couldn't be bothered to answer them.

I got so upset that I DM'ed her this really long, I guess relatively rude letter, because I was hurt, and she ended up blocking me. She actually blocked me. Like I thought she was my friend and then she goes ahead and does that. I am so upset it's nearly 4:00 in the morning right now and I can't bring myself to go to sleep. I just can't stop crying. What should I do?

-Thanks

Stop stalking her. Sounds like everything was cool until you wrote her that long DM. On some level it also sounds like you want to be part of the "in" crowd, since she's like almost famous. If you had actually met up with her online, and that were to go south you'd be hurt even more, so this could be a mixed blessing.

[goofy328]

Is it possible that she was simply being polite to you and you misconstrued her actions? That is not the same thing as having an actual relationship with someone.

[germaine2626]

Originally Posted by thalia.leighton

Thank you, instead of giving me actual advice all people do is criticize me for every single detail and then proceed to call me all those names. I didn't realize that these sites were a hate page, I thought they actually offered POLITE and RESPECTFUL advice.

Initially people gave you polite and respectful advice and instead of writing something like "I did not think of it from that perspective" or "It never occurred to me that she was not a 'real friend' " or "I guess I did over react to what happened" or "I was wrong and I will be more careful on social media in the future", you just kept insisting and insisting that you did nothing wrong and that the "semi-famous person" was wrong to block you (someone who was cyber-stalking her).


So, person after person after person gave you the same advice and you kept denying it and saying that you are right and that everyone else was wrong, so people started to post stronger comments to you trying to get you to understand. Most people on here have many more years of life experience, retired teachers who worked with teenagers, parents and grandparents who have dealt with similar issues, people who have learned from their own mistakes, etc.


Yes, perhaps, a few people answered you a little strongly but if was only after you kept insisting and insisting that you were right and everyone else who was responding was wrong.

[ultraviolet3]

Originally Posted by thalia.leighton

THIS post isn't an overshare of info, it's just a girl being extremely mean to me and blocking me after SHE was the one who ignored me when I'd done nothing to her, yet when I actually stand up for myself and confront her for ignoring me, I get called "freak" "weirdo" "mentally insane" and other cruel names. As if the hate i get at school isn't enough.

How exactly was she mean to you? You sent someone, whom you do NOT know personally, a rude rambling message that more than likely freaked her out. You admit to cyberstalking her, seem to think that "everyone" does that. No, everyone does not cyberstalk.

Let me put this in simple terms: If someone ignores you, either they have other things to deal with or quite frankly, just are not interested in what you have to say. Confronting someone, whom you do not know, nor do you have a real relationship with, about why they haven't responded to you will only lead to being blocked. Et voila... that's what happened.

Learn from your actions. It might seem cool to have interactions with quasi-celebrities on social media, but that is NOT a real relationship. Concentrate on making friends IRL.

[Creature of the Wheel]

Originally Posted by thalia.leighton

. I just can't stop crying. What should I do?

-Thanks

What you should do is get the ---- over it.

[Shalop]

Originally Posted by thalia.leighton

instead of giving me actual advice all people do is criticize me for every single detail and then proceed to call me all those names. I didn't realize that these sites were a hate page, I thought they actually offered POLITE and RESPECTFUL advice.

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